I can say from experience, parenting is the biggest blessing in life and the biggest challenge. I have never felt so proud and inadequate in all my life! Any suggestions I can get are always welcome. I hope you have felt the same way this week as we have discussed strategies to help with difficult behaviors. Here are some more suggestions of things to do.
Let's face it- Parenting is HARD work! It keeps you on your toes from minute to minute. Once you think you have mastered one challenge, everything changes and a new one appears. The way parents handle difficult behaviors can have a big impact on who a child develops into. It's important to keep their self-esteem intact, while involving them in the process of modifying their behavior.
I think as a society in general, we tend to focus on what we are doing "wrong" as parents. I love what we are doing this week as we focus on what a healthy Mom looks like vs. what we are all doing wrong. Today we are going to focus on discipline. Discipline is about Teaching, not just Punishment When we think of discipline we often think of punishment. But the actual word "disciple" comes from the word "discipline" because it is about teaching.
Characteristic #2: A Healthy Mother Doesn't Pick Favorites & Knows They Need to Love Their Children Differently
Mother's know each of their children are separate individuals, each with their own separate emotional needs, talents and abilities. While your first-born may have been a very special and unique and separate experience from your third or fourth-born, a healthy mother does not show favoritism toward any of her children.
This week's blog is such an important topic. If you the parent are aware and better informed, then you can pass on this information to your children as well. Here are two more tips on how to protect your kids from predators:
- Explain how predators work on the internet. Tell your kids to never give out their personal information (name, address, phone number, school, friends names, etc...) without your approval first.
As a parent, one of my main concerns is my child's safety. Part of my job is to be the "safety patrol" and teach them how to catch on to what is safe and what is risky behavior. As school is ending and summer break gets into full gear, we thought it would be good to remind you of helpful tips to protect your kids, whether it is in the yard, at the park, or on the computer.
I was at a conference when I heard a well known and respected Psychologist, Henry Cloud, tell a wonderful story. It was about a couple he had counseled. They were sick and tired of their 21 year-old son living with them. He didn't contribute financially or with any of the household chores. They wanted to know how they could fix their son's problem. Henry looked at them and said, "Your son doesn't have a problem. He has it made. YOU all have a problem!"
When children return back home in their 20's and 30's, this can create some uncomfortable moments for parents. Finances is one such area that can become very uncomfortable.
One reason children move back home is for their own financial reasons. Somehow they're struggling financially on their own, and they land on mom and/or dad's doorstep.
Have you ever heard a friend or family member complain about their adult child still living in their basement? This phenomenon is called “Failure to Launch”. This week at Imagine Hope we will be discussing what failure to launch is, the impacts and consequences, and how to address it should you find your adult children still living with you.
At Imagine Hope we hear a lot of stories from clients about their families. As we watch how the media portrays families, we see that many of our clients can relate to the stories we see on TV. Each day this week we will dig into some popular families and draw from their positive traits and dysfunctions.
Divorce takes a child's normal and flips it upside down. There is more research today available about the impact of divorce on kids than when my parents divorced when I was 10. "Helping Your kids Cope With Divorce the Sandcastles Way" is THE best resource I have found for parents as they navigate their way through parenting after divorce.
Isn't it fun to see Christmas through the eyes of a child? A few years ago, when decorations started popping up, my then 4 year-old noticed every light, each tree, and had a comment for them all! I realized in the moment that was only his 2nd Christmas that he remembered! We get so desensitized to it all that we forget the beauty and magic in the most wonderful time of the year! Here's some help with your 5 and 6 year-old, to see it through their eyes.