Positive Thinking

Let Go & Let In 2

I love that we're talking about how to replace bad habits or ways of life with something positive. Let's continue with the positives we need to let into our lives as we let go of the negatives. 3. Let In Compassion

This starts by allowing ourselves to ask for help, and having compassion for ourselves. We can't worry we can't do everything on our own...no one else can do everything on their own, so why should we be any different? We need to start being kind to ourselves and stop judging ourselves for not being perfect. The more we're able to do this, the more we'll be able to be kind to others and stop judging others. Letting in compassion can also mean opening ourselves to being comforted and loved by others. It can be easier to offer comfort to friends and family at times, but letting them return the favor is necessary as well.

4. Let In Forgiveness

Forgiving others is just as healing and important as forgiving ourselves. Letting in forgiveness allows us to experience personal freedom, and internal peace. A key to experiencing forgiveness is allowing ourselves to be human, and admitting we're going to make mistakes. Once we're able to admit this, it will be easier to let in forgiveness. If there is someone in our lives we need to extend forgiveness to, this applies here as well. Not extending forgiveness to someone will hold bitterness inside, rather than create peace.

Hopefully this list is giving you some good ideas for letting some positive things into your life. We have many more wonderful things to discuss over the rest of the week. Thank you for reading!

*Adapted from “You Are Worthy of Receiving: 10 Things To Let Into Your Life” by Kathy Kruger

Written by: Tamara Wilhelm MA, LMHC, LCAC

*Tamara enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, & couples counseling  at Imagine Hope. We also specialize in family counseling, child & adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield & Fishers.

Let Go and Let In 1

How many times do you hear people say, "I'm going to stop doing _____". People commit to stopping bad habits, changing their life styles, and purging out the negatives in their lives. Just look at the average person's list of New Years Resolutions! But do you ever hear someone talk about what they are replacing the bad with? Good for them that they are trying to clean up their life, but if they have a gaping hole that the negative used to fill, they are sure to fill it with a different negative or relapse quickly if they aren't careful.

Kathy Kruger wrote about this concept and the idea of letting go of the bad and letting in the good. This way once the bad is gone, you aren't left empty, but instead are receiving something positive.

So this week we are going to point out 10 positives you can "let in" after you let go of the negatives in your life.

1. Let In Awareness

If you float through life running into anything that comes your way, you might be living without intention. You are living in reaction mode. Letting in awareness means that you take a step back and take in all that is around you. You pay attention and connect the dots of things happening around you. You understand and apply the concept of cause and effect and you think on a deeper level. Don't just say "I'm going to get my anger under control". LET IN awareness by saying, "I am going to stay aware of my emotions and not react in the moment when things go wrong by taking a deep breathe and choosing my words carefully before responding."

2. Let In Love

It is a basic human need to be and feel loved. Do you let love in? Do you allow others to love you, or do you sabotage their love by not letting them get close? Maybe you try to talk others out of reasons to love you by rejecting their compliments or putting yourself down.

True letting love in has to start with YOUR self love before you are ever able to let others love you. If you don't believe that you are loveable, it is difficult to let others love and care for you. When your self talk reflects self-hate, you assume others see you with the same eyes you see yourself with. Let love in by changing your self-talk to a kind, patient, and forgiving voice that allows you to not have to be perfect.

We hope you can purge out the old negatives, and let in these positives. Check back all week for more!

Adapted from "You are worthy of receiving: 10 things to to let into your life" by Kathy Kruger

Written by Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW, LCAC

Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW, LCAC is a licensed therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Teri does virtual therapy for residents of Indiana and Florida using videoconferencing technology. Teri enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling. Teri also does family counseling and adolescent counseling.

5 Steps For Handling Frustration – #3

#3 Be thankful-Frustrations can be blessings in disguise If you find yourself getting frustrated, it’s easy to get caught in the spiral-nothing’s going right, no one appreciates you, it’s never going to get better, etc.  What if instead of allowing yourself to continue being frustrated, you paused for a moment and counted your blessings?

Rick Warren wrote “You don’t have to be thankful for a bad situation, but you can be thankful in a bad situation”.  It’s easy to look at the glass as being half empty, when instead we should look at the glass as always being half full.  Our attitudes definitely can affect how we handle frustrating situations.

In the world of Facebook, it seems there is always someone venting their frustrations for everyone to see.  They complain about their children, their spouses, their jobs, having to come home and cook dinner, and on and on.  Sometimes I feel myself getting frustrated at their endless rants of unhappiness.  Don’t get me wrong, I know I’m not perfect!  I know I have rough days too.

But here’s another perspective on it:

Your child that you just complained about for everyone to see-you could have five friends struggling with infertility right now, who would love to have a child to get frustrated at.  You probably have a friend who recently lost a child due to a miscarriage or death.  Your negative words about your children cut through these individuals like a knife.

Your spouse that you just threw under the bus for everyone to read about-you probably have a dozen friends who are struggling to find a spouse and wonder if they are going to be alone for the rest of their lives.  You may also have friends whose spouse recently left them, either through an unwanted separation or death.

Your job that you hate-you probably have a few friends who have recently been given pink slips.  These friends are stressed and wondering how they are going to care for their families.  They would love to have a job to complain about.

Having to come home and cook dinner for your family after a long day at work-you may have friends who are wondering where their next meal is coming from.  They would love to come home to stocked fridge and pantry. 

The point is-I’m not trying to shame anyone or make you feel bad.  I just want to give you another way of looking at the frustrations in your life.  There is a saying that says “The things you take for granted, someone else is praying for”.  The next time you feel really frustrated, take a moment to count your blessings and look at what it is you are upset about.  You may soon realize that your frustrations are really blessings in disguise.

Source: Five Steps for Handling Frustration by Rick Warren, author of Purpose Driven Life

 

Written by: Christy Fogg, MSW, LCSW

Christy Fogg, MSW, LCSW is a licensed therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group.  Christy enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling.  Christy also provides family counseling, child counseling, and adolescent counseling.

Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Zionsville, and Westfield.