This week, we have been discussing the subject of trauma-- Not the obvious kind of trauma that occurs due to a natural disaster or global catastrophic event, but the more subtle kinds of trauma that often go unrecognized. These subtle forms of trauma impact our lives emotionally, though we often times might not recognize that is what we are experiencing.
As Teri discussed yesterday, Denial is the first stage in the grief process. What happens once denial is removed? After you realize your loved one is gone or you're really losing your job, or you don't have the marriage you once thought? Anger & Bargaining set in. Today we'll talk about Anger, tomorrow we'll address Bargaining.
This week as we explore conflict resolution tips, see if you can recognize strengths you already possess in this area, along with skills you need to sharpen a bit more. Here are a few more tips to make conflict more productive:
6. Eliminate cheap shots and "below the belt" comments. Conflict is to be respectful, using respectful words and phrases.
All week we’ve been discussing the serious topic of self-mutilation and cutting. We’ve discussed why someone may self-harm, how to react to someone who cuts, and how to communicate concern with someone who feels tempted to hurt themselves. The next step is getting in this process is getting professional help. A trained professional can help can help with:
People have a variety of ways to cope when going thru a hard time. Some people find healthy ways, but reality is that many people seek out ways to cope that are destructive and make things worse. Whether a person turns to addiction, isolating from loved ones, or hurting themselves to ease the pain, if the coping skill isn't promoting a person's emotional health and growth, it can lead down a bad path.
This week we are helping people understand more about cutting. It is something we've seen clients of many ages engage in to "numb" the pain of life.
So far, we have described what Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) is, as well as how it can impact your life. So what can you do to help with the symptoms? While there is no “cure” for SAD, there are things you can do to minimize and limit the symptoms to cope more effectively. Here are some treatment options:
Light Therapy. Light therapy is used with a “light box”, which is a specially designed device that produces high levels of light and is usually used for 30 minute intervals twice a day (or as prescribed by your doctor).
Psychotherapy/counseling. As with any form of depression, counseling can greatly assist you in identifying life stresses and learn better ways of coping that aid in depression symptoms.
Antidepressants. While not all people need antidepressants, if you have tried other methods of coping and seem unable to make improvements with your symptoms (or if they seem to be getting worse), antidepressants may be needed to help with SAD.
Living a healthy lifestyle. This means trying to keep a regular sleep schedule and good sleep hygiene, eating right, exercising, drinking water, limiting alcohol consumption, and eliminating addictive behaviors.
There are many options to treatment for SAD, though the best treatment for you depends on the severity of your symptoms, as well as the duration for which they have been present. Don’t hesitate to contact your doctor or a professional counselor if you identify with SAD symptoms. Help is closer than you realize!
Joleen Watson, LMFT, MS, is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. She enjoys doing marriage counseling, relationship counseling, couples counseling, and individual counseling. Imagine Hope also specializes in family, child and adolescent counseling and serves Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield, and Fishers.
Can you believe it’s December already? Christmas will be here in a few weeks and so will Christmas break. We hope all our readers take advantage of this time to be intentional about planning for and enjoying their break. This week we came up with several ideas that you can do as an individual or family over your break.
Have you identified the stressful areas of your life so far with this week's blog topic? Stress is something that is almost inevitable in our society today. With so many areas of life to balance, stress is bound to creep up on us once in awhile! Today, we will continue with some additional areas that stress may be causing difficulty, and discuss some tips that can help you with each.
Let's face it: Stress is unavoidable. Now that Teri has described for us the difference between "good" and "bad" stress, we can take action on conquering the "bad" stress and preparing for the "good" stress. As always, there are some things to stay away from when dealing with stress. If feeling stressed, avoid:
As a society, we tend to thrive on stress. It is an inevitable part of life. Whether it's from relationships, work, big life changes, money, kids, school, or just managing all of life's demands- we cannot get away from it. Stress is our body's way of reacting to difficult situations. But it doesn't always have to be a bad thing
As Tamara and Teri have shared this week, there are many signs of Hidden Anger. Are you relating to any of them? As Tamara mentioned, it is interesting how many of the signs are closely related to the same signs of Depression. That is because sometimes Depression is unresolved anger that we have held onto for a long time. Anger festers and eats away at our very core and creates psychological and physical changes in us. Here are some more signs for you to think about:
12. Slowing down of movements: When you notice yourself being slower than you usually are and on a regular basis, not just having one day that you are dragging.
13. Getting tired more easily than usual: It takes a lot of energy to carry around all that anger so you are going to feel it in your body.
14.Excessive irritability over trifles: Many people normally experience this after not sleeping well one night or near PMS. But we are talking about on a regular basis again.
15. Getting drowsy at inappropriate times: Again, Anger= less energy= more tired
16. Sleeping more than usual- maybe 12-14 hours a day. Are you seeing a pattern here with the energy level??
17. Waking up tired rather than rested or refreshed.
As you can see, these do go hand in hand with Depression. When you are feeling these symptoms, you may be starting to battle Depression because the anger is getting so intense. Continue reading tomorrow to find out the last 6 signs from Joleen. Thank you for reading.
*Natalie Chandler, MA, LMHC, LCAC is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Natalie enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, and couples counseling. We also specialize in family counseling, child, and adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Westfield, and Zionsville.