addictions

The Masks We Wear...Addiction

The Masks We Wear...Addiction

This week we are talking about masks since it is Halloween.  However, we are not talking about the masks we put on to dress up for trick-or-treating; we are talking about masks we wear on a daily basis.  All of these masks protect us so that others can’t see us for who we really are.  Today we are talking about the mask of Addiction.

What is Addiction?

Addiction is the uncontrollable compulsive need to engage in a certain activity or use a substance even when there are negative consequences.  Alcoholism, drug addiction, gambling,

What is "Acting Out" in Pornography Addiction?

What is "Acting Out" in Pornography Addiction?

So far this week, we have discussed the different stages of pornography addiction.  These stages are escalating-- meaning, they get progressively worse as time goes on.  We have learned that initially, pornography addiction begins as early exposure.  Next, that exposure becomes something that the individual continues to return to, in order to get the same relief.  Next, the behaviors increase, leading to escalation of behaviors that would have normally disgusted the individual to begin with.  Following escalation is the desensitization phase, where the individual becomes numb to the very behaviors that were "exciting" to begin with.  After the desensitization phase is:

Acting out sexually.

The Desensitization of Pornography Addiction

The Desensitization of Pornography Addiction

This week we have been discussing the stages of pornography addiction. If you haven't read the first 3 stages; Exposure, Addiction, and Escalation, please take the time to do so before moving forward. It's important to understand that porn addiction is a progression and doesn't happen overnight. Today we are going to discuss Desensitization. 

How the Brain Gets Addicted to Pornography

How the Brain Gets Addicted to Pornography

Why is pornography so addictive?  Well, there are many reasons for this.  Today we are going to discuss how and why exposure to pornography can develop into an addiction. 

Exposure to pornography surges the reward circuit or pleasure center in the brain, releasing large amounts of dopamine.  Dopamine makes you feel good and the brain "remembers" how good it felt.  This “good feeling” can provoke you to repeat the same behavior, despite negative consequences, to feel that pleasure again. So, you keep coming back for more and more.  Often times, it results in not being able to stop, and you can get hooked on pornography.

Non-Traditional Addictions: Busy Addiction

Non-Traditional Addictions: Busy Addiction

Do you ever find it difficult to sit still and just "be" without having to do something "productive" with your time? Does idle time without having a "schedule" or having something planned make you anxious? When you have "down time", are you able to just relax, or do you need to be busy and doing something?

Non-Traditional Addictions: People Pleasing

Non-Traditional Addictions: People Pleasing

Most of us have an innate need inside us to please other people. Individuals who don't care what anyone else thinks or feels typically don't have very positive relationships. But what we are talking about here is a need that drives someone to please others…

Non-Traditional Addictions: Anger

Non-Traditional Addictions: Anger

"Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies", Nelson Mandela.

Resentment is a form of anger. You have probably heard that anger plays a large role in addictions. But did you know that there is an actual anger addiction?

Non-Traditional Addictions: Spending

Non-Traditional Addictions: Spending

Spending Addiction can be very tricky because we have to spend money in our culture. It's what makes the world go 'round, right?

Non-traditional Addictions: Worry

Non-traditional Addictions:  Worry

People can easily fall into self-destructive addictions to cope with stress and emotional pain. Most people hear the word addiction and think of the typical addictions like alcohol, drugs, gambling, sex, or food. Have you ever considered non-traditional addictions?

Lying and Trust Issues: How to Respond

Lying and Trust Issues: How to Respond

What to do if you think you are being lied to: Don't obsess-- when you invest all of your emotional energy in what another person is doing, you are only hurting yourself and handing your personal power over to that person to define whether or not you are "okay".  Learn to take care of yourself, instead.  

More Things to Remove From Your Life Part 3

More Things to Remove From Your Life Part 3

Do you know the definition of insanity? We see it a lot in couples and individuals. It's what many of them need to remove from their life: Doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results! We are constantly amazed at how couples, and individuals for that matter, continually do the same things and are surprised when they don't get a different outcome. Particularly with couples, they will come in and insist on fighting, the same way they do at home, only in front of an audience that they are paying. I will persistently try over and over to teach them to have conflict in a different, more healthy

How to Help Someone Who Cuts: Introduction

How to Help Someone Who Cuts: Introduction

People have a variety of ways to cope when going thru a hard time. Some people find healthy ways, but reality is that many people seek out ways to cope that are destructive and make things worse. Whether a person turns to addiction, isolating from loved ones, or hurting themselves to ease the pain, if the coping skill isn't promoting a person's emotional health and growth, it can lead down a bad path.

This week we are helping people understand more about cutting. It is something we've seen clients of many ages engage in to "numb" the pain of life.

Addictions- Relationships

Addictions- Relationships

As we continue to discuss Addictions this week, it is important to identify Relationship Addictions. We see this a lot at Imagine Hope. Again, it is one of the Addictions that is hard to recognize if you don't understand what it is. It is "acceptable". You've heard people say, and there was even a song written about it, "They are just addicted to love". This can actually happen. 

Addictions- Workaholism

Addictions- Workaholism

This week we are focusing on addictions. If you have not read the previous blogs, it is important to do so as Teri has actually defined an addiction. Tamara also made an excellent point in saying with addictions, it is not always the "how much" someone is doing something but they "why". That is so true.  Today, I am going to talk to you about work addiction.