At Imagine Hope we help many blended families. I am currently in a blended family and I come from a blended family. Perhaps that is why my sister Natalie (who I never refer to as my step sister) and I loved to watch the reruns of The Brady Bunch. Since our “group had somehow formed a family”, Natalie and I would pretend to be Marcia and Jan when we were little. We probably watched every episode multiple times. I am sure we wondered, “why can’t our older brother be as nice as Greg?” or “why can’t we have a live-in maid as nice as Alice?”
As we wrap up this week’s blog, we hope you’ve been able to adjust the way you see change, if change has been uncomfortable in the past. We offer one last piece of encouragement.
Be able to see the bigger picture.
Have you ever struggled during a big life change to understand why it was so painful, only to look back years (or even months) later, and feel gratitude for the change?
All relationships have conflict at some point. Many couples try to avoid it mostly because they don’t know how to make fighting work “for” their relationship. Conflict within communication can be a good thing if done correctly. It allows each person to be honest with themselves and their partner about their opinions and desires. This week Imagine Hope wants you make your communication better.
It's important as you read the blog this week to remember anger is a God-given emotion. It's perfectly healthy to feel anger. However, it's how we express anger that can become inappropriate or unhealthy. Here are two more tips to help when dealing with anger:
If you find yourself running into the same anger problems, or you and your spouse going round and round with the same arguments, it might be time to get some help from a third party.
Chances are, you probably know someone who has either been recently diagnosed with a form of cancer, or has been in a long struggle with cancer. Unfortunately, cancer is on the rise, and as the loved ones of cancer patients, we don't know how to handle or support those who have been diagnosed. This weeks blog is focused on ways to support someone with cancer. So, what can you do?
As we've discussed this week, being diagnosed with cancer is a life-changing experience. There are so many emotions involved. Many times a person diagnosed with cancer will feel overwhelmed about many different things. There are so many things to think about that you aren't normally faced with in the day to day. Hopefully this week you are finding ways to help a friend or family member who is battling cancer.
Unfortunately we are all impacted by cancer. If you aren’t diagnosed with cancer in your lifetime, there is a very high probability someone you care about will be. The cancer diagnosis can be a very scary and overwhelming journey. Friends and family often have good intentions but may not know how to help.
I do associate family cookouts, my mom's awesome bbq ribs & the official start of summer with this holiday. However, I also associate personal freedom as well. When thinking back on the true representation of Memorial Day, it's a day set aside in remembrance of those U.S. soldiers who died while in military service, the ritual beginning after the civil war.
This week Imagine Hope is focusing on creating intimacy with your partner. Intimacy is more than just sex, it is the deep connection you strive for to feel truly loved. As you read our 10 tips throughout the week, challenge yourself to think about intimacy as something you can change in your relationship. The harder you work at it, the better it gets!
So far this week we have discussed the natural states of children. We have discussed that a child naturally feels valuable and vulnerable. Today we explore how the natural state of being imperfect can be used against a child in dysfunctional families. Healthy parents expect our children to be imperfect. We know our children will learn and grow and make mistakes along the way. That is how children learn!
One of the most difficult challenges faced by a therapist is initiating lasting change in our clients. We are all creatures of habit. Some of us are uncomfortable but are comfortable being uncomfortable because it is familiar and a habit. Almost everyone I know has struggled in keeping their New Years Resolutions, myself included. We are forced to break those difficult habits to see real change in our lives. A few years ago I felt discouraged when I reviewed my resolutions and sought to find out how to make REAL change. Change that I could commit to and change that would….well, change my life. I wanted to share what I have found to be helpful.
When setting boundaries with people, it's important to not only tell them what you DON'T want, but also to tell them what they CAN do to be within the boundary you are setting. Offer alternatives! Sometimes setting boundaries can be an issues of how to talk to people. The people close to us in our lives don't know what we need or what works for us, unless we directly tell them so.