Resiliency

Seeing Yourself in a New Way Part 3

Seeing Yourself in a New Way Part 3

Isn't it interesting to hear how other's view themselves? I would have never imagined that Tamara or Christy wanted to be any different. I LOVE their personalities. I think it is a special gift when we can see something we once saw negative in ourselves and now see it as positive.

Parenting Styles: Create Boundaries

Parenting Styles: Create Boundaries

This week we are talking about the importance of creating resiliency in our children.  One of the most important ways we can do this is by teaching out children about boundaries.  Children need structure and routine.  These provide kids with a sense of safety, security, and stability.  Providing your children with a supportive, nurturing and safe environment helps them thrive, but it also provides them with a solid foundation that can be drawn upon when dealing with life stressors.  

Parenting Styles: Allow Failure

Parenting Styles: Allow Failure

Yesterday we went over the characteristics of resilient children. Two of these characteristics are that a resilient child has learned how to problem solve and has been allowed to experience failure.

The Power of Failure

Failure can help a child (and an adult) develop an identity. Oftentimes we desire for children to have high self-esteem and see themselves in a good light. While this sentiment is well-intentioned, it can be misguided. Let me explain.

What is PTG? Part 2

What is PTG? Part 2

Yesterday Christy did a wonderful job introducing Post-Traumatic Growth to us. I highly suggest reading yesterday's blog if you haven't already done so.

Sometimes we'll experience a trauma so great it threatens our feeling of safety and security. It's not uncommon to develop Post-Traumatic Stress (PTS) symptoms as a result of going through the trauma. While PTS can be painful, scary and debilitating, there can be hope on the other side, which is our topic this week, PTS: Post-Traumatic Growth.

Lessons From Veterans- Strong

Happy Veteran's Day this week! We are so thankful to all the men and women who have served in our armed forces. In honor of all the brave veterans this week, we want to highlight some great attributes they exhibit. Strong-

When I think about veteran's, one word that comes to mind is "strong". Knowing many of the challenges people in the military face, their strength is an attribute that can carry them through hardships.

Strong has many great definitions:

  • able to perform a specified action well and powerfully.
  • having the power to move heavy weights or perform other physically demanding tasks.
  • able to withstand great force or pressure.
  • possessing skills and qualities that create a likelihood of success.
  • (of a person's character) showing determination, self-control, and good judgment.
  • very intense.

We don't have to be in the military to be strong, but tapping into our inner strength even when we feel like giving up is a great lesson to follow of some of our veterans.

When you read some of these definitions above, do you notice that you may be stronger than you give yourself credit for?

Life throws us tons of unexpected challenges, without strength, we are likely to struggle and crumble through it.

What gives you strength? God? People believing in you? You believing in you?

Like veterans, there are no promises that things will be easy, so you must rely on strength to get you through.

Check in for more tomorrow!

Written by Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW, LCAC

Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW, LCAC is a licensed therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Teri does virtual therapy for residents of Indiana and Florida using videoconferencing technology. Teri enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling. Teri also does family counseling and adolescent counseling.

10 Ways to Become More Resilient Part 4

As we have discussed this week, resilience is the ability to bounce back and cope well through and after a struggle. This week we are sharing Kendra Cherry’s tips to become more resilient. Be sure and read the previous days as well. These are great tips and we can all use them to become more resilient! 7. Develop Your Problem- Solving Skills

At the risk of sounding like an old fuddy dud, I've noticed that as technology has increased, our ability to problem solve on our own has decreased. We immediately run to google or an App to find solutions to our problems. But it's important to come up with solutions on our own. People that practice this are more resilient because they are more confident in their ability to ...well...solve problems. They are able to think off the top of their head and are more creative as well.

If you've forgotten how to solve problems (and many of us have) remember to make a list of ways you could solve it (brainstorming). Then pick and choose which is better for your solution. This simple strategy will help you feel more prepared for more serious challenges that come your way, making you more resilient to cope with them.

8. Establish Goals

Sometimes when my clients are dealing with a problem and they aren't sure how to solve it, I ask them what they want to get out of the problem or what is the best case scenario for the end result. Once they state it, we know that is the goal. Then we break it down into small, manageable parts if possible.

Establishing goals and breaking them down will also build your problem solving skills and build your confidence, thus making you more resilient when challenges come your way.

Tomorrow Joleen will give us 2 more ways to become more resilient. As always, thank you for reading.

*Source: “10 Ways to Become More Resilient” by Kendra Cherry http://psychology.about.com/od/crisiscounseling/tp/become-more-resilient.htm

Written by Natalie Chandler

Natalie Chandler, MA, LMHC is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Natalie enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, and couples counseling. We also specialize in family counseling, child, and adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Westfield, and Zionsville

10 Ways to Become More Resilient-Part 3

5. Be Optimistic Staying positive during difficult times can be hard.  However, being optimistic and finding the silver lining can definitely help you to be more resilient.  This doesn’t mean you ignore the problem or dig your head in the sand—but rather that you are able to find some light among the darkness.   Understand that setbacks and struggles are a part of life.  However, you have the ability and the skills to handle any challenges you may be faced with.

6. Nurture Yourself

Something we therapists preach about here at Imagine Hope is self-care!  When you are stressed out, you have a tendency not to take care of your health.  You may not eat well, get enough sleep, or do positive things for yourself.  When you don’t take care of yourself, your overall health (physical and mental) decline.  Self-care is directly related to resiliency.  Make sure that despite your struggles, you are carving time out for yourself.  Read a book, get a massage, cook healthy dinners, go for a walk, etc.  It is amazing what these little things can do to make you feel better!

Come back tomorrow as we talk about more ways to become resilient.

*Source: 10 Ways to Become More Resilient by Kendra Cherry http://psychology.about.com/od/crisiscounseling/tp/become-more-resilient.htm

Written by Christy Fogg, MSW, LCSW

Christy Fogg, MSW, LCSW is a licensed therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group.  Christy enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling.  Christy also provides family counseling, child counseling, and adolescent counseling.

Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Zionsville, and Westfield.

10 Ways to Become More Resilient-Part 1

How good are you at bouncing back from a struggle? Do you wallow and feel pulled under by the heaviness of the negative situation? Or do you shift into an empowered mindset and refuse to let it bring you down?

 

Resilience is the ability to bounce back and cope well through and after a struggle. This week we are sharing Kendra Cherry’s tips to become more resilient.

Let’s face it…life is hard. We can all use a boost in these areas to help us make it through.

1. Build Positive Beliefs in Your Abilities

When you think of your abilities, do you see all the things you CAN’T do, or all you CAN do? When you focus on all your weaknesses, you tend to forget that you actually have strengths!

Believing in your abilities can help you cope through a tough storm. It might be helpful to make a list of your strengths and keep them handy for those times you have trouble focusing on the positive.

2. Find a Sense of Purpose in Your Life

When life gets harder than usual, it helps to have purpose to keep you focused and put one step in front of the other.

People find purpose in many ways like in a faith in Jesus, becoming part of a community, their marriage and kids, and meaningful jobs.

Purpose helps drive us to push through and become more resilient because we have something to fight for and live for. We believe in something and we feel so convicted that we won’t let anything get in the way.

Check in tomorrow for more tips. Life will always be hard, but that doesn’t mean you can’t bounce back and be resilient!

Source: 10 ways to become more resilient by Kendra Cherry http://psychology.about.com/od/crisiscounseling/tp/become-more-resilient.htm

Written by Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW, LCAC

Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW, LCAC is a licensed therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Teri does virtual therapy for residents of Indiana and Florida using videoconferencing technology. Teri enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling. Teri also does family counseling and adolescent counseling.

Let Go and Let In 1

How many times do you hear people say, "I'm going to stop doing _____". People commit to stopping bad habits, changing their life styles, and purging out the negatives in their lives. Just look at the average person's list of New Years Resolutions! But do you ever hear someone talk about what they are replacing the bad with? Good for them that they are trying to clean up their life, but if they have a gaping hole that the negative used to fill, they are sure to fill it with a different negative or relapse quickly if they aren't careful.

Kathy Kruger wrote about this concept and the idea of letting go of the bad and letting in the good. This way once the bad is gone, you aren't left empty, but instead are receiving something positive.

So this week we are going to point out 10 positives you can "let in" after you let go of the negatives in your life.

1. Let In Awareness

If you float through life running into anything that comes your way, you might be living without intention. You are living in reaction mode. Letting in awareness means that you take a step back and take in all that is around you. You pay attention and connect the dots of things happening around you. You understand and apply the concept of cause and effect and you think on a deeper level. Don't just say "I'm going to get my anger under control". LET IN awareness by saying, "I am going to stay aware of my emotions and not react in the moment when things go wrong by taking a deep breathe and choosing my words carefully before responding."

2. Let In Love

It is a basic human need to be and feel loved. Do you let love in? Do you allow others to love you, or do you sabotage their love by not letting them get close? Maybe you try to talk others out of reasons to love you by rejecting their compliments or putting yourself down.

True letting love in has to start with YOUR self love before you are ever able to let others love you. If you don't believe that you are loveable, it is difficult to let others love and care for you. When your self talk reflects self-hate, you assume others see you with the same eyes you see yourself with. Let love in by changing your self-talk to a kind, patient, and forgiving voice that allows you to not have to be perfect.

We hope you can purge out the old negatives, and let in these positives. Check back all week for more!

Adapted from "You are worthy of receiving: 10 things to to let into your life" by Kathy Kruger

Written by Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW, LCAC

Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW, LCAC is a licensed therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Teri does virtual therapy for residents of Indiana and Florida using videoconferencing technology. Teri enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling. Teri also does family counseling and adolescent counseling.