One of the most important parts of positive communication skills is being a good listener. When you listen, a person feels cared about, important, heard, and loved. Being a good listener can help all your relationships achieve more depth and intimacy. That's why we are giving you an attainable goal each day this week to help you become a better listener.
Do you know the definition of insanity? We see it a lot in couples and individuals. It's what many of them need to remove from their life: Doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results! We are constantly amazed at how couples, and individuals for that matter, continually do the same things and are surprised when they don't get a different outcome. Particularly with couples, they will come in and insist on fighting, the same way they do at home, only in front of an audience that they are paying. I will persistently try over and over to teach them to have conflict in a different, more healthy
Because Sunday is Father's Day we are writing about how our Fathers blessed us. Truly, I was so blessed with such an amazing Dad that it was difficult to pick one thing. He taught me about my Faith, how to work hard and serve others, and how to love unconditionally. But many times my mind goes back to the memories we shared.
As we have been discussing parenting a difficult child, we encourage you to keep in mind that parenting isn't just about teaching your child how to "behave"-- It's also showing them love by teaching them how to navigate their world and learn more about themselves. Today we will complete the series on strategies for coping with difficult behaviors in kids.
I can say from experience, parenting is the biggest blessing in life and the biggest challenge. I have never felt so proud and inadequate in all my life! Any suggestions I can get are always welcome. I hope you have felt the same way this week as we have discussed strategies to help with difficult behaviors. Here are some more suggestions of things to do.
Let's face it- Parenting is HARD work! It keeps you on your toes from minute to minute. Once you think you have mastered one challenge, everything changes and a new one appears. The way parents handle difficult behaviors can have a big impact on who a child develops into. It's important to keep their self-esteem intact, while involving them in the process of modifying their behavior.
I think as a society in general, we tend to focus on what we are doing "wrong" as parents. I love what we are doing this week as we focus on what a healthy Mom looks like vs. what we are all doing wrong. Today we are going to focus on discipline. Discipline is about Teaching, not just Punishment When we think of discipline we often think of punishment. But the actual word "disciple" comes from the word "discipline" because it is about teaching.
Characteristic #2: A Healthy Mother Doesn't Pick Favorites & Knows They Need to Love Their Children Differently
Mother's know each of their children are separate individuals, each with their own separate emotional needs, talents and abilities. While your first-born may have been a very special and unique and separate experience from your third or fourth-born, a healthy mother does not show favoritism toward any of her children.
This week's blog is such an important topic. If you the parent are aware and better informed, then you can pass on this information to your children as well. Here are two more tips on how to protect your kids from predators:
- Explain how predators work on the internet. Tell your kids to never give out their personal information (name, address, phone number, school, friends names, etc...) without your approval first.
As a parent, one of my main concerns is my child's safety. Part of my job is to be the "safety patrol" and teach them how to catch on to what is safe and what is risky behavior. As school is ending and summer break gets into full gear, we thought it would be good to remind you of helpful tips to protect your kids, whether it is in the yard, at the park, or on the computer.
I was at a conference when I heard a well known and respected Psychologist, Henry Cloud, tell a wonderful story. It was about a couple he had counseled. They were sick and tired of their 21 year-old son living with them. He didn't contribute financially or with any of the household chores. They wanted to know how they could fix their son's problem. Henry looked at them and said, "Your son doesn't have a problem. He has it made. YOU all have a problem!"