Marriage

Psychology and TV Families Starring "All in the Family"

Psychology and TV Families Starring "All in the Family"

I am LOVING reading this weeks blogs about dysfunctional TV families. I like to think of the beauty of family in the friendships in Golden Girls. I love how they created their own family when they were no longer with their own. 

My husband has had to sit through episode after episode of All in the Family with me. It's funny because you would think someone like me would never put up with the first 20 minutes of that show. 

Taking Care of Yourself Through A Divorce: Adjusting

Taking Care of Yourself Through A Divorce: Adjusting

Evaluate your relationships and make whatever life adjustments you feel are necessary. During a divorce, you might encounter many "Monday Morning Quarterbacks"... the people who feel like they need to give you advice on what you should have done differently, or those that might think you need to hear them repeatedly "bash" your soon-to-be-ex.  Perhaps there are people around you that encourage you do things that are self-destructive (like trying to set you up on a date, thinking it will ease your transition period...

Taking Care of Yourself Through A Divorce: Support Systems

Taking Care of Yourself Through A Divorce: Support Systems

Divorce is a major life-change that many individuals go through. It's difficult, confusing and chaotic at times. This week we'd like to offer you some recommendations to help you take are of yourself if you find yourself in the middle of a divorce:

1. Find Some Stability- Throughout this process there will be alot of disruption. Lots of meetings with lawyers & mediators, lots of packing, lots of emotions. Try to find some sort of normalcy as much as you can.

Maintaining a Relationship Connection Part 4

Maintaining a Relationship Connection Part 4

This week we are talking about tangible ways to keep a relationship connection. Notice we didn't say "easy". Unfortunately with the busyness of life, it's not easy to to make our relationships a priority. It can be difficult to find the time to do things to keep them maintained. Relationships are like plants. If you neglect them, they will slowly wither up and die. It's important to have good maintenance.

Maintaining Your Relationship Connection Part 1

Maintaining Your Relationship Connection Part 1

Are things going smooth in your relationship? Do you feel connected and close? Congrats! We are so excited for you! Getting to a good place in your marriage can be a long hard road. Many couples we work with are able to achieve connection, but they fear that things will go down hill over time.

The Impact of ADHD on Marriage: Easily Distracted

The Impact of ADHD on Marriage: Easily Distracted

This week, Imagine Hope is discussing how ADHD impacts marriage and the marital relationship. Adults with ADHD tend to be scattered in their thinking and easily distracted.  This can make it very difficult to have meaningful conversations and stay on one topic without jumping from subject to subject.  Have you ever struggled with your spouse "chasing squirrels" in conversation?  For example, you might be sharing something emotional that happened to you during the day, or something you are excited about in your life, and your spouse gets distracted by their own thoughts or they veer off topic with seemingly random subjects.

The Impact of ADHD on Marriage: Obliviousness

The Impact of ADHD on Marriage: Obliviousness

This week we are discussing how ADHD creates challenges in marriage. Many couples have no idea this is going on. The person is just seen as disorganized or lazy. Hopefully this is helping shed light on those that struggle with being married to someone with ADHD. Here are some more characteristics. 

Talks To Have Before Getting Married: Conflict Styles and Common Interests

Talks To Have Before Getting Married:  Conflict Styles and Common Interests

If you are presently engaged to be married, we send you our warmest congratulations! The time of dating and engagement is exciting and promising-- a time where couples dream of a future together and feel the promise of a great future with their soon-to-be spouse.  Unfortunately, many of us don't learn the "in's and out's" of what it takes to make a marriage work, which can end up in feelings of great disappointment once the "I do's" have taken place.

Talks To Have Before Getting Married: Communication Styles

Talks To Have Before Getting Married: Communication Styles

If you are reading this, there is probably a Congratulations in order?? Well congrats! Or you may be a parent or friend, reading this to pass along the information. Your child or friend will thank you later ;) So far we have learned of the importance of talking about expectations, roles and rules, and styles of love. Today we will talk about communication.

Talks to Have Before Getting Married: Relationship Rules

Talks to Have Before Getting Married: Relationship Rules

Whether you realize it or not, you have relationship rules and role expectations. It's how we believe things are going to be when we're married. It's how the man and the woman are going to "act" or what each person is going to be in charge of in the marriage

Talks to Have Before Getting Married: My Expectations

Talks to Have Before Getting Married: My Expectations

Imagine Hope is getting several calls each week for people who want to save their marriage before it starts! Couples are starting to realize that they need to do more planning for their marriage while they plan their wedding. Many get caught up in the thrill of engagement and wedding stuff, that they loose sight of all the things that go into having a successful marriage

How Fear Affects Your Family Life

How Fear Affects Your Family Life

This week, Imagine Hope is honoring Halloween by discussing the different ways that (real) fear can have a negative impact on our lives.  

How does fear potentially impact our family system?

Communicating Effectively with Your Partner - Stop Interrupting Them

Communicating Effectively with Your Partner - Stop Interrupting Them

I agree with the effective communication tips Teri and Tammy have shared and would add the following as well: 

Making a lot of assumptions about what the other partner is thinking. I see this a lot. One partner assumes what the other is thinking and reacts based on what they believe.

Communicating Effectively with Your Partner - Stop Blaming Them

Communicating Effectively with Your Partner - Stop Blaming Them

This week we're trying to help couples prevent heartache by naming the mistakes we see most often in our office. Yesterday we discussed sweeping things under the rug, expecting a one-hour session to make everything better, & keeping work life separate from home life. Today we build on these common mistakes:

Fighting about too many things at once. It’s hard to follow a disagreement when you’re fighting about this, that, & the kitchen sink.