Love

Ways to Be a Better Listener - Ask Questions

Ways to Be a Better Listener - Ask Questions

One of the most important parts of positive communication skills is being a good listener. When you listen, a person feels cared about, important, heard, and loved. Being a good listener can help all your relationships achieve more depth and intimacy. That's why we are giving you an attainable goal each day this week to help you become a better listener.

Create Fireworks In Your Marriage....With a Little Space

Create Fireworks In Your Marriage....With a Little Space

Ever receive a small gift or thank-you note unexpectedly? Remember how special it felt to receive it? The same applies in marriage too. Let your spouse know you're thinking of them when you're apart. Figure out your mate's love language and run with it! If your spouse is someone whose love language is Verbal Affirmations, then send positive, loving texts to them throughout the day,

Create Fireworks In Your Marriage by Spicing it Up!

The most important part of seduction is to communicate your desires to your partner.  In addition, you need to allow your partner to communicate their desires to you as well.  Oftentimes, our sex life becomes lazy the longer we are with our partner.  You need to relay to your partner that you still want to please them, in order to avoid a rut. When you do find yourselves in a sexual rut, it’s often because life gets in the way.  We have careers, children, bills to pay, a house to clean, etc.  Sometimes these things can drain our energy during the day, and we don’t have the energy to “perform” in bed at night.  However, when you have sex with spark, it is not an energy drain, but an energy boost!

Stop having the same sex!  Seduce your partner, spice up your sex life.  Try something or someplace new.  Take it out of the bedroom or incorporate a new position, lingerie, or novelty.  Try to recreate the sex that you had when you were first together.

Remember what turns your partner on-and do it!  Make them feel desired and appreciated.  Stop wearing that old nightgown or ripped T-shirt to bed.  Put on something seductive and see what happens.  Massage your partner’s back or neck.  Put on a new perfume/cologne or light some sensual candles.  Turn on some music and let it guide you.

Have sex at least twice a week.  Make it a priority!  When you put the time into it to make it more rewarding, it doesn’t feel like a chore.  The key is to seduce your partner, not service them!  Explore and communicate your own desires, and be enthusiastic to make your partner feel good.  But most of all, have a blast!

Written by guest author Christy Fogg, MSW, LCSW

Christy is a licensed therapist at Journey to Joy Counseling in Carmel, Indiana. She specializes in Individual Counseling, Couples/Marriage Counseling, Premarital Counseling, Family Counseling,  and Teen/Adolescent Counseling

Maintaining Your Relationship Connection Part 1

Maintaining Your Relationship Connection Part 1

Are things going smooth in your relationship? Do you feel connected and close? Congrats! We are so excited for you! Getting to a good place in your marriage can be a long hard road. Many couples we work with are able to achieve connection, but they fear that things will go down hill over time.

How Fear Affects Your Family Life

How Fear Affects Your Family Life

This week, Imagine Hope is honoring Halloween by discussing the different ways that (real) fear can have a negative impact on our lives.  

How does fear potentially impact our family system?

What Does it Mean When You Have Abandonment Issues? Part 1

What Does it Mean When You Have Abandonment Issues? Part 1

Many times, our clients feel confusion when the term “abandonment issues” comes up in therapy. After all, don’t we most commonly think of the literal term, “abandonment”, as being physically abandoned (like an infant who is left on a door step for someone to find) ?

So, what exactly are abandonment issues? 

Tips to Nurture Relationships Part 1

Tips to Nurture Relationships Part 1

We all have moments where we stop and think “I should call and check on so-and-so to see how they are”, or “I should really make an effort with this person to do more”.  Life often has a way of getting in between relationships—whether they are friendships, your family, or even your marriage. Relationships don’t just happen.  They take time, effort, love, patience, sacrifice, and nurturing to keep them in existence and to help them grow.  This week at Imagine Hope we are talking about the importance of nurturing relationships, and steps you can take to better any relationships that you may not be giving your full time or attention to.

Myths About Love - Part 2

Myths About Love - Part 2

 This week we want to address some common misperceptions about love. Love can be a wonderful experience when it is mature, based in reality and honest. Love can be hurtful when we enter it with misperceptions. Here are some common myths about love:

Myths About Love Part 1

Myths About Love Part 1

People love love. Romance can be like a drug to many. But the danger of this is that people don't truly understand what love is. They bring misconceptions about love into their relationship and end up with hurt feelings, confusion, and sometimes the ending of the relationship. Because society has such an impact on how we view love (and we know how twisted our society's lens of the world can be!), we want to help our readers understand the myths about love that could be doing damage in their relationships.

Christmas Gifts that say “I Get You” - Part 1

 Christmas Gifts that say “I Get You” - Part 1

Christmas is coming up and many feel pressure to find the “perfect” gift. This week Imagine Hope is giving you tips on what to give based on your partner’s love language. There is a great book that helps couples examine which love languages they speak: The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman.

Relationship Exits Part 1

Relationship Exits Part 1

The fight or flight instinct is a strong one that kicks in without us even thinking about it. Sometimes this instinct can play out in relationships too. We might be in situations where we desire to fight for the relationship or flight and exit. This week we are going over common exits that we see in relationships. All relationships use language to express feelings. An exit is a behavior that acts out our feelings.

Ways Pets Improve Mental Health Part 1

Ways Pets Improve Mental Health Part 1

This week at Imagine Hope, we are discussing the impact your four-legged friends can make on your mental health. Did you know that research shows owning a dog or a cat can reduce blood pressure, decrease stress, and boost levels of endorphins in your brain? It’s amazing how impactful these family members can be on our lives!

Essential Ingredients to a Healthy Relationship Part 1

Essential Ingredients to a Healthy Relationship Part 1

Everyone has good intentions to find a healthy relationship, but do they have what it takes to make it happen? Enmeshment is the initial love stuck feeling people typically experience at the beginning. This extreme is a short lived fantasy land where people tend to lose themselves. This is not a healthy relationship.

How Shame Effects Relationships Part 5

How Shame Effects Relationships Part 5

As we have learned this week, shame issues take many forms in relationships and can have very damaging effects on a relationship.  Many couples who come in our office initially think they are struggling with communication issues surrounding a particular area of their life (e.g., domestic support, finances, parenting, intimacy), but once we dive into the way they are communicating, we find that it has less to do with the content of their conflict and more to do with the way they communicate, if the communication is filled with shame.

Attacking the person vs. the behavior:  Criticism