What is an Emotional Affair? Recovery and Building Trust

Once you have identified that you are in an emotional affair or you have been caught in an emotional affair, there is a specific reconstruction process to follow to heal your relationship.

These are the first 5 things to do once the initial disclosure has come out:

1. Seek IMMEDIATE help from a profession. The longer you wait the harder the healing process is. Don't expect that you and your partner can navigate your own way through this. You are too emotionally involved to stay focused.

2. The person you had the emotional affair with needs to be gone. Completely cutoff contact.

3.Both of you must make a commitment to the long road of healing for it to work.

4.Full disclosure of things such as who it was with, what happened, when, how long, where, and that it ended are important. No new details can come up after this point. Otherwise you will start back from square one.

5. Look at the causes that lead up to the affair.

Once these first steps are taken then you can start the road to recovery. These steps all happen simultaneously, and must continue over a significant period of time to be effective.

1. Rebuild safety in the relationship

2. Rebuild trust

3.Begin the forgiveness process

4. Manage triggers as they arise

This is a difficult yet powerful process to go though. Remember relationships can heal after and affair- there is HOPE!

Written by guest blogger Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW, LCAC

Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW, LCAC is a licensed therapist at Renewed Horizon Counseling. Teri does virtual therapy for residents of Indiana and Florida using videoconferencing technology. Teri enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling. Teri also does family counseling and adolescent counseling.