Sometimes it doesn't take much to lift our moods, does it? A simple compliment, a smile or a "thank-you" can go a long way. The same is true about marriage. It's the simple things that can help on days that seem never-ending, or just plain rotten. But, your marriage doesn't have to match the mood of the day. Here's some simple suggestions to help your marriage:
5. Sit next to each other. Some of you may be thinking, "What?" But, too often in our office we hear disconnected couples talk about sitting on separate couches/loveseats at night. This physical distance is representative of the emotional distance in their relationship. Begin changing the relationship by moving physically closer. Sooner or later you might find yourselves snuggling!
6. If you think he/she looks nice...say it! How often do we think something nice about our spouses, but that's where it ends? Follow-through and speak it. How much impact would this make on your marriage? And on your children?
7. Eat meals together as often as you can (without technology). Set aside time in your evening as a couple (or family) to eat together. Turn off the tv/computer/phone/tablets and (gasp!) talk to each other. (We know doing this every evening is not possible.) Create connection, find out how your spouse or family members are doing face-to-face. Social media posts may say how your family members are doing, but face-to-face conversations will show you how they're doing.
8. Thank your spouse for doing what they always do. Thank each other for their normal roles from time-to-time. This doesn't need to be expected regularly, but every once in a while it's nice to hear, "Hey, thanks for making dinner", or "Thanks for picking up the kids", "It's nice to come home to clean laundry", or "It's nice to not have to worry about taking the trash out".
There's many more simple changes that can help your marriage. Please keep reading this week as we discusses several more!
Written by: Tamara Portee MA, LMHC, LCAC
*Tamara enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, & couples counseling at Imagine Hope. We also specialize in family counseling, child & adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield & Fishers.