goal setting

SMART Goals- Part 1

SMART Goals- Part 1

Happy New Year from Imagine Hope Counseling Group!  We hope this new year brings you many blessings and hope for the future.  For many of us, setting goals is a tradition that we do this time every year...only to lose momentum in a few weeks or months.  Our good intentions get lost in the shuffle and busyness of life, our goals were not attainable or realistic, etc.  

Goal Setting-Question 3

This week we are looking at questions to ask yourself while you are making those new goals for the New Year. It will definitely help you, if you haven't already read this week, to go back and read the other blogs of Teri, Tamara, and Alexa. They all build wonderfully on each other. Today we are going to ask the question, "What are your dreams?" Be sure and answer this question in all of the following areas: 1. Material Goals

2. Family and Friends Goals

3. Educational/ Intellectual/ Professional Goals

4. Health Goals

5. Leisure Goals

6. Spiritual Goals

7. Creative Goals

8. Emotional/ Psychological Growth

This really is about, well....dreaming!! What do you dream about? For your health, some people could dream of getting into those old jeans you love so much. Another may dream that they want to just feel more mentally healthy and could do this thru better nutrition and exercise.

Maybe a material dream is you want to own a house or take the kids to Disney World this year. Or a creative dream might be to learn to paint for pleasure. What about that class you always wanted to take on Philosophy? That would be an educational/intellectual dream.

A Spiritual dream may be dreaming of have a true, honest relationship with God. Or how about sharing your faith with a friend this year?

You get the picture- this is something you have always wanted to do, change, or become but have never taken the time, had the energy, or just thought about the steps.

I encourage you to write down your dreams in each area. Then remember the tips Teri gave about taking small steps to achieve them. When we look at dreams, they often remain dreams because they look overwhelming with just taking a snapshot. But when you break them into small steps, they become obtainable!

Tomorrow Joleen will talk about Question 4. We wish you the best of luck in reaching your dreams and goals for this year! Thank you for your time and reading.

Adapted by "Self Esteem" by Matthew McKay and Patrick Fanning

Written by Natalie Chandler

Natalie Chandler, MA, LMHC, LCAC is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Natalie enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, and couples counseling.  We also specialize in family counseling, child, and adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Westfield, and Zionsville

Goal Setting - Question 1

It's that time of year when we start fresh and new. McKay & Fanning have come up with 4 key questions to ask when trying to set goals. When asking yourself these questions for setting goals, don't forget to apply the questions to each of the 8 categories Teri introduced yesterday: 1. Material Goals

2. Family and Friends Goals

3. Educational/ Intellectual/ Professional Goals

4. Health Goals

5. Leisure Goals

6. Spiritual Goals

7. Creative Goals

8. Emotional/ Psychological Growth

 

Question #1: What Hurts of Feels Bad?

As you think about the areas above, apply each of them to your life. Is there anything that doesn't feel good or that has bad or painful feelings associated with them? How about anything you would like to change? This is one of the best ways to start your goals setting. Think of everything that "feels bad" in one column. It's ok if you have several items!

The next step is to change the "feels bad" into positive goals. Think of something concrete you can do to change each item in your "feels bad" column. Make sure it's realistic & a specific action.

For Example:

If you feel boredom in the evening, then you could join a book club. If you have backaches, then visiting the chiropractor monthly might be the corresponding goal. Lastly, if you feel disconnected from your spouse, you might set a goal of going on 1-2 dates per month to reconnect.

Once you figure out what hurts, you can figure out how you can set goals in these areas. Tomorrow we will introduce another question that will help you figure out other goals that you may want to set as well. Thanks for reading, good luck with your goals!

*Adapted from Self-Esteem by Matthew McKay & Patrick Fanning

Written by: Tamara Portee MA, LMHC, LCAC

*Tamara enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, & couples counseling  at Imagine Hope. We also specialize in family counseling, child & adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield & Fishers.

 

 

 

The Secret to Keeping New Year's Resolutions

So what resolutions are you working on this week? Haven't even got there yet because you are still experiencing the post Christmas exhale? Maybe these tips will get you motivated this week. Here are 2 more:

4. ALWAYS write your goals down. I suggest writing them in a journal or on your PDA. Keep them somewhere that you can easily see them when you need to. I keep mine in my journal and on my clipboard that I use at work everyday. If I put them on the mirror, I get used to it and forget it’s there. But if it’s somewhere I don’t see everyday but I have it readily available, I will look at it more frequently and keep myself on course. Which leads to my next suggestion.

5. Review your goals often. Aside from looking at them frequently, I actually sit down and review them in my journal every quarter. I look at where I am at and remind myself what I need to be doing to make changes.

We really hope these tips help you make lasting change. Joleen will share the final tip tomorrow. We hope you have a blessed and Happy New Year!

*Natalie Chandler, MA, LMHC is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Natalie enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, and couples counseling. We also specialize in family counseling, child, and adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Westfield, and Zionsville.

The Secret to Keeping New Years Resolutions 2

If you read yesterday's blog, hopefully you have been beginning to think about what you want to see happen in the coming new year. Today we're going to talk about how to start formulating those goals to stay realistic and keep them within reach. 2. Imagine how you would look and feel if you obtained your goals.

I imagined what I would feel like physically and emotionally if I lost 10 pounds.  How would I feel with a more developed spiritual life? Who do I want to draw closer to and what would it be like to have them closer to me?

3. Decide what you need to do specifically to make your life changes.

Be specific with your goals and break them into smaller goals.  If one relationship I want to develop is with my Grandmother, what do I need to do in order to develop this further? I need to talk and visit with her more often.  So I set a small goal that I will call her twice a month and go see her once a month.  Or if I want to get closer to my husband, I will plan a date night once a month and schedule to have lunch with him once a week.  If you break it into smaller, specific pieces you’ll have more of a chance for success than if your goal is broad and unattainable.

Hopefully this helps you visualize your resolutions in a more concrete way. Thank you for reading & please check back in to read 2 more days of secrets to keeping resolutions!

Written by: Tamara Wilhelm MA, LMHC

*Tamara enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, & couples counseling  at Imagine Hope. We also specialize in family counseling, child & adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield & Fishers.