Ways to Be a Better Listener- Body Language

Ways to Be a Better Listener- Body Language

I love the examples of open-ended questions in yesterday’s blog. The examples were simple and easy to see how the change in asking a question could change the direction of a conversation. While it's important to ask questions to let someone know you're listening to them, there are many other factors involved in communication. One of these factors doesn't include speaking at all.

Ways to Be a Better Listener - Ask Questions

Ways to Be a Better Listener - Ask Questions

One of the most important parts of positive communication skills is being a good listener. When you listen, a person feels cared about, important, heard, and loved. Being a good listener can help all your relationships achieve more depth and intimacy. That's why we are giving you an attainable goal each day this week to help you become a better listener.

More Things To Remove From Your Life Part 4

More Things To Remove From Your Life Part 4

What is one definite way to ruin communication, trust and intimacy in your relationships? Passive-Aggressive behaviors and indirect communication. 

More Things to Remove From Your Life Part 3

More Things to Remove From Your Life Part 3

Do you know the definition of insanity? We see it a lot in couples and individuals. It's what many of them need to remove from their life: Doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results! We are constantly amazed at how couples, and individuals for that matter, continually do the same things and are surprised when they don't get a different outcome. Particularly with couples, they will come in and insist on fighting, the same way they do at home, only in front of an audience that they are paying. I will persistently try over and over to teach them to have conflict in a different, more healthy

Things You Need To Remove From Your Life

Things You Need To Remove From Your Life

Have you ever taken a good hard look at your life or your marriage and realized, "This isn't working anymore, but I don't know what to do?" Well, this week, Imagine Hope is going to go over some of the things we see in marriages (and life in general) that need to be REMOVED in order for individuals and marriages to be successful. Maybe you're caught up in a negative thinking pattern, nag too much, or are overly critical. Or, maybe you have an addiction or are having an affair that needs to be removed in order for your life or marriage to get back to it's winning percentage.

Create Fireworks in Your Marriage When You Flirt!

Create Fireworks in Your Marriage When You Flirt!

You've heard the saying, "The grass grows where it's watered". As with grass and plants, so it is in our relationships. The more effort and time you give to it, the more it will grow and weather life's challenges. That's why I love this weeks topic. It's not just about sex, it's about keeping the relationship ALIVE!

Create Fireworks In Your Marriage....With a Little Space

Create Fireworks In Your Marriage....With a Little Space

Ever receive a small gift or thank-you note unexpectedly? Remember how special it felt to receive it? The same applies in marriage too. Let your spouse know you're thinking of them when you're apart. Figure out your mate's love language and run with it! If your spouse is someone whose love language is Verbal Affirmations, then send positive, loving texts to them throughout the day,

Create Fireworks In Your Marriage by Spicing it Up!

The most important part of seduction is to communicate your desires to your partner.  In addition, you need to allow your partner to communicate their desires to you as well.  Oftentimes, our sex life becomes lazy the longer we are with our partner.  You need to relay to your partner that you still want to please them, in order to avoid a rut. When you do find yourselves in a sexual rut, it’s often because life gets in the way.  We have careers, children, bills to pay, a house to clean, etc.  Sometimes these things can drain our energy during the day, and we don’t have the energy to “perform” in bed at night.  However, when you have sex with spark, it is not an energy drain, but an energy boost!

Stop having the same sex!  Seduce your partner, spice up your sex life.  Try something or someplace new.  Take it out of the bedroom or incorporate a new position, lingerie, or novelty.  Try to recreate the sex that you had when you were first together.

Remember what turns your partner on-and do it!  Make them feel desired and appreciated.  Stop wearing that old nightgown or ripped T-shirt to bed.  Put on something seductive and see what happens.  Massage your partner’s back or neck.  Put on a new perfume/cologne or light some sensual candles.  Turn on some music and let it guide you.

Have sex at least twice a week.  Make it a priority!  When you put the time into it to make it more rewarding, it doesn’t feel like a chore.  The key is to seduce your partner, not service them!  Explore and communicate your own desires, and be enthusiastic to make your partner feel good.  But most of all, have a blast!

Written by guest author Christy Fogg, MSW, LCSW

Christy is a licensed therapist at Journey to Joy Counseling in Carmel, Indiana. She specializes in Individual Counseling, Couples/Marriage Counseling, Premarital Counseling, Family Counseling,  and Teen/Adolescent Counseling

Create Fireworks In Your Marriage by Dating Each Other!

Create Fireworks In Your Marriage by Dating Each Other!

It's 4th of July week, so fireworks are Imagine Hope's focus! Fireworks in your marriage that is ;) 

The beginning of relationships can feel like fireworks. The passion, the desire to see them and talk to them, and the drug like euphoria are all common parts of the enmeshment phase of a relationship.

Extroverts Part 5

Extroverts Part 5

Today, we will finish up with this weeks blog series on being an Extrovert.

What is an extrovert?

As we discussed earlier this week, extroverts get energy from being around other people.  They tend to be more of an "open book", and are usually outgoing individuals.  Being alone or in solitary activities tends to deplete their energy, because they gain energy from spending time with people.  Often times, you will hear someone who is extroverted say they dislike being alone

Extroverts Part 4

Extroverts Part 4

Can you identify the extroverts in the picture?? They are the ones with their hands in the air, waving them like they just don't care! Look at me! Look at me! I love it. Such a great visual to lead into our next characteristic. 

Extroverts love the spotlight! 

Extroverts love attention and to be the life of the party. A lot of times they get a bad rap.

 

Extroverts Part 3

Extroverts Part 3

We are discussing extroverts this week, trying to better understand this personality type and how they interact with the world.  Extroverts are well know for their social personalities, and the energy they get from being around people.  But how do extroverts think and process their thoughts of the outside world?

To begin with, extraverted thinkers tend to be very logical, objective and fair.  They have a very "fact based style" of thinking and reasoning.