His Holiness the Dalai Lama

What Does It Mean to "Let Go"-3?

Some of us are better at letting go than others.  We all struggle with this concept at some point during our lives.  The sensation of holding on gives us this false sense of control, security, and drains us of our energy.  Sometimes, we hold on anyway because we do not know how to let go.  I hope this week gives you some hints as to how to make that happen.

  • Letting go means love more and fear less.  Choose love over fear.  Choose to love your spirit enough not to weigh it down with fear and regret.  To paraphrase a quote from His Holiness the Dalai Lama, “If you have fear of some pain or suffering, you should examine whether there is anything you can do about it. If you can, there is no need to hold onto it; if you cannot do anything, then there is also no need to hold onto it”
  • Letting go means not to regret the past, but to live for the present and the future.  How much time have you wasted going over and over a situation, punishing yourself for saying or doing the wrong thing?  How much time have you wasted thinking, “If only…”?  You cannot change the past.  It led you to exactly where you should be.  Right here right now.  To paraphrase a quote from Albus Dumbledor, “It does not do to dwell on regret and forget to live.”
  • Letting go means to focus on your own dreams and not regulate others.  We cannot control what others choose to do, but we can control ourselves.  When we focus on our own dreams, we lead by example.

One of my favorite quotes comes to mind when I think of letting go.  “Good Morning, This Is God! I will be Handling all Your Problems Today. I Will Not Need Your Help -- So Have a Good Day. I Love You!”  Keep coming back all week for more tips on how to let go.

Alexa Griffith, LMHC, LCAC, NCC, RPT is a licensed therapist and Registered Play Therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Alexa enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling. Alexa also does play therapyfamily counseling, child counseling, and adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Zionsville, and Westfield