As we learned yesterday, despite Halloween around the corner, fear can creep into our lives anytime of the year. Today, we're talking about one more area fear rears it's ugly head:
As we continue to discuss Addictions this week, it is important to identify Relationship Addictions. We see this a lot at Imagine Hope. Again, it is one of the Addictions that is hard to recognize if you don't understand what it is. It is "acceptable". You've heard people say, and there was even a song written about it, "They are just addicted to love". This can actually happen.
Teri and Tamara did an excellent job of describing the Family Hero and the Scapegoat in our families. I want to discuss with you the role in the family that typically gets "lost", The Lost Child. The Lost Child is usually shy and quiet. They prefer solitude and often have fantasy lives as children.
People can easily fall into self-destructive addictions to cope with stress and emotional pain. Most people hear the word addiction and think of the typical addictions like alcohol, drugs, gambling, sex, or food. Have you ever considered non-traditional addictions? This week we will highlight several non-traditional addictions like: worry, spending, busyness, people pleasing, and anger to help you see that it is easy to get taken over by them.
Yes, all people worry once in a while, but do you ever feel like you are drowning in worry? Do you obsess over the "What if?"
People can be addicted to worry and obsession when their lives start to become paralyzed by their fear. They start to feel attacked by worry to a point they have trouble thinking clearly about what reality is.
When people are in emotional pain, it might feel like a relief to be distracted by another emotion- like worry and obsession. It could also feel like they are in control of their life and the pain through their worry and obsession. This is all a self-destructive illusion that can halt your ability to live a fulfilling life if it is not balanced in reality.
Keep your self away from the worry and obsession addiction path by processing through your struggles and not avoiding them. I know it can be overwhelming and scary, but living a life addicted to worry doesn't feel good either!
Check back all week to read about more non-traditional addictions!
Written by Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW, LCAC
Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW, LCAC is a licensed therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Teri enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling. Teri also does family counseling, child counseling, and adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Zionsville, and Westfield.