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Introverts Part 5

Introverts Part 5

This week, Imagine Hope is discussing what it means to be an introvert.  

Some people assume that being an introvert means that you are shy.  That is not necessarily true!  Introverts can be very outgoing and sociable people.  In fact, many times, introverts love people-- learning about others, doing things for others, and can be very loyal, caring and loving individuals.  As Christy mentioned on Monday in this weeks earlier blog series, the difference with introverts is that, usually, they need to "re-fuel" their emotional, mental, spiritual and physical "tank" by doing things that are more solitary and self-reflecting.

Signs Your Marriage Is In Trouble: Gossiping

Signs Your Marriage Is In Trouble: Gossiping

Teri, Natalie, and Tammy have shared some insightful ways to learn more about the state of your marriage.  Today we will finish up this blog series with a few more ways of knowing if your marriage is in trouble:

  • You find yourself "venting" to your friends and family about your spouse.

Signs Your Marriage Is In Trouble: Arguments

Signs Your Marriage Is In Trouble: Arguments

Teri got us started yesterday on signs to watch out for that can show a marriage is in trouble. You may read some of these and think, “Duh,” but some of these may actually be a surprise or something you never fully realized until now. Here are a few more:

Signs Your Marriage Is In Trouble: Avoidance

Signs Your Marriage Is In Trouble: Avoidance

magine Hope specializes in helping couples build a healthy relationship. Unfortunately many people come to marriage counseling after a lot of damage has been done- so we all have hard work to do. This week we are trying to help people see signs that their relationship is in need of help before it is too late for the relationship to recover. If you find yourself struggling with some of these in your marriage, it maybe time to talk it through with one of our relationship experts.

Communication Myths 3-5

Communication Myths 3-5

Myth #3: “If my partner and I can just make more time to talk about our problems, it will solve all of our relationship issues” 

Reality: There are several reasons why this statement isn’t true. First of all, though increasing communication in a relationship is imperative, it isn’t the only thing that is needed in order to improve the relationship. More of unhealthy communication only makes matters worse. If each individual isn’t aware of the unhealthy ways they are communicating with each other, it can become a circular pattern of never-ending conflict and pain. Secondly, how we communicate is more significant than how much- the amount of time spent talking isn’t nearly as important to the relationship as the quality of how people communicate.

Taking Care of Yourself Through A Divorce: Adjusting

Taking Care of Yourself Through A Divorce: Adjusting

Evaluate your relationships and make whatever life adjustments you feel are necessary. During a divorce, you might encounter many "Monday Morning Quarterbacks"... the people who feel like they need to give you advice on what you should have done differently, or those that might think you need to hear them repeatedly "bash" your soon-to-be-ex.  Perhaps there are people around you that encourage you do things that are self-destructive (like trying to set you up on a date, thinking it will ease your transition period...

The Impact of ADHD on Marriage: Easily Distracted

The Impact of ADHD on Marriage: Easily Distracted

This week, Imagine Hope is discussing how ADHD impacts marriage and the marital relationship. Adults with ADHD tend to be scattered in their thinking and easily distracted.  This can make it very difficult to have meaningful conversations and stay on one topic without jumping from subject to subject.  Have you ever struggled with your spouse "chasing squirrels" in conversation?  For example, you might be sharing something emotional that happened to you during the day, or something you are excited about in your life, and your spouse gets distracted by their own thoughts or they veer off topic with seemingly random subjects.

Talks To Have Before Getting Married: Conflict Styles and Common Interests

Talks To Have Before Getting Married:  Conflict Styles and Common Interests

If you are presently engaged to be married, we send you our warmest congratulations! The time of dating and engagement is exciting and promising-- a time where couples dream of a future together and feel the promise of a great future with their soon-to-be spouse.  Unfortunately, many of us don't learn the "in's and out's" of what it takes to make a marriage work, which can end up in feelings of great disappointment once the "I do's" have taken place.

Talks To Have Before Getting Married: Communication Styles

Talks To Have Before Getting Married: Communication Styles

If you are reading this, there is probably a Congratulations in order?? Well congrats! Or you may be a parent or friend, reading this to pass along the information. Your child or friend will thank you later ;) So far we have learned of the importance of talking about expectations, roles and rules, and styles of love. Today we will talk about communication.

Talks to Have Before Getting Married: Relationship Rules

Talks to Have Before Getting Married: Relationship Rules

Whether you realize it or not, you have relationship rules and role expectations. It's how we believe things are going to be when we're married. It's how the man and the woman are going to "act" or what each person is going to be in charge of in the marriage

Talks to Have Before Getting Married: My Expectations

Talks to Have Before Getting Married: My Expectations

Imagine Hope is getting several calls each week for people who want to save their marriage before it starts! Couples are starting to realize that they need to do more planning for their marriage while they plan their wedding. Many get caught up in the thrill of engagement and wedding stuff, that they loose sight of all the things that go into having a successful marriage

Signs of Hidden Anger: 18-23

So far, we have seen 17 different signs that can tell you if you might have hidden anger.  As Natalie and Tammy have shared, many of them can mimic signs of depression.  In 18-23, you might also recognize these signs of hidden anger can also feel similar to anxiety.

18.  Clenched jaws-- especially while sleeping.

19.  Facial tics, spasmodic foot movements, habitual fist clenching and similar repeated physical acts done unintentionally or unaware.

20.  Grinding of teeth-- especially while sleeping.

21.  Chronic depression... extended periods of feeling down for no reason.

22.  Chronically stiff or sore neck or shoulder muscles.

23.  Stomach ulcers.

There is a lot of research out there that suggests that people with hidden resentments and anger have higher instances of physical illness and disease such as cancer and heart disease.  Are you struggling with unresolved, hidden anger?  It could be very beneficial for you to dive into this!  Find out what it's all about and gain peace within your heart, mind, and body today!

Joleen Watson, MS, LMFT, NCC, is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. She enjoys doing marriage counseling, relationship counseling, couples counseling, and individual counseling.  Imagine Hope also specializes in family, child and adolescent counseling and serves Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield, and Fishers.

How Fear Affects Your Family Life

How Fear Affects Your Family Life

This week, Imagine Hope is honoring Halloween by discussing the different ways that (real) fear can have a negative impact on our lives.  

How does fear potentially impact our family system?

Communicating Effectively with Your Partner - Stop Being Defensive

Communicating Effectively with Your Partner - Stop Being Defensive

In addition to what Teri, Tammy, and Natalie spoke about in their blogs, here are 3 additional tips for effective communication I see are helpful when working with couples:

Reducing defensive responses when your partner gives you constructive criticism, or when your partner shares how they are feeling about something going on in the relationship. When you become defensive and reactive, you create an unsafe environment for your partner to share their feelings.

Communicating Effectively with Your Partner - Stop Interrupting Them

Communicating Effectively with Your Partner - Stop Interrupting Them

I agree with the effective communication tips Teri and Tammy have shared and would add the following as well: 

Making a lot of assumptions about what the other partner is thinking. I see this a lot. One partner assumes what the other is thinking and reacts based on what they believe.