his week, Imagine Hope Counseling Group wraps up our blog series on anger. As we have discussed earlier in the week, anger can often times be what we call a "secondary" emotion. This means that what looks like anger is really secondary to another feeling that is underneath the angry reaction. If you haven't read the earlier blog parts from this week, I encourage you to check out part 1, part 2, part 3 and part 4. So, read on if you want to learn about why you or someone you love might REALLY be angry.
Do you ever find it difficult to sit still and just "be" without having to do something "productive" with your time? Does idle time without having a "schedule" or having something planned make you anxious? When you have "down time", are you able to just relax, or do you need to be busy and doing something?
What to do if you think you are being lied to: Don't obsess-- when you invest all of your emotional energy in what another person is doing, you are only hurting yourself and handing your personal power over to that person to define whether or not you are "okay". Learn to take care of yourself, instead.
Rebuilding trust is very difficult and takes a lot of time. I think the most difficult part of working with people that have lied or have been untrustworthy in the past is helping them understand one thing: The person you betrayed is not in your mind to have access to your thoughts right now. They do not know with certainty, or have the confidence that you may have in your mind, that you are not going to betray or lie to them again. The only thing they have access to is the past.
Why do people have trust issues? Most of us have been hurt at some point in our history. Some of us still have wounds from those hurts. It takes a lot of brave work to heal some of those wounds. When we have pain from lies, betrayals, disappointments, and abandonment that is not healed, that pain can cause a person to have real trouble trusting others and establishing intimacy.
This is the golden question, isn't it? Truth is, there's not really one correct answer to this. People lie for many different reasons, and I'm sure I won't cover all of them!
Fear- Some people lie because they're afraid of how others will react if they find out the truth. Will they still love me or will they leave me? Will I still be accepted? Will they get angry at me?
This week, Imagine Hope is discussing 5 different tips to getting out of a toxic friendship. If you haven't read our earlier blogs, feel free to go back and check out the first 3 tips from earlier this week! So far, we have talked about recognizing what your role is in allowing the toxic relationship to continue, we have encouraged you to talk a neutral party and to set boundaries with the relationship. What can you do if that isn't working?
Friendships are the sunshine in our lives. Yes, all friendships go thru problems or struggles, but for the most part, a friendship needs to be a bright spot in your life. If it's not, and usually brings you down or causes you a lot of grief, it may be toxic. Today I am going to disucss with you how to set boundaries in the relationships. There are three steps to this.
Have you ever been in a toxic friendship? Did you have the courage to "break up" with them and get out? Toxic friends often leave you feeling worse than better. They tend to cut you down rather than support you. You may feel drained, agitated, and emotionally bankrupt after time with them. They usually only take from you, and the focus is all on them.
One of books I've found to be wonderful and full of insight is So Long, Insecurity by Beth Moore.
Beth addresses the main issue many women struggle with internally of insecurity. However, on the outside, this insecurity comes out as defensive, critical, controlling, & indignant behavior. In this book, Beth explores & welcomes the male perspective, how the men in each of our lives want to see us
One of the most important parts of positive communication skills is being a good listener. When you listen, a person feels cared about, important, heard, and loved. Being a good listener can help all your relationships achieve more depth and intimacy. That's why we are giving you an attainable goal each day this week to help you become a better listener.