This week, Imagine Hope is discussing 5 different tips to getting out of a toxic friendship. If you haven't read our earlier blogs, feel free to go back and check out the first 3 tips from earlier this week! So far, we have talked about recognizing what your role is in allowing the toxic relationship to continue, we have encouraged you to talk a neutral party and to set boundaries with the relationship. What can you do if that isn't working?
Friendships are the sunshine in our lives. Yes, all friendships go thru problems or struggles, but for the most part, a friendship needs to be a bright spot in your life. If it's not, and usually brings you down or causes you a lot of grief, it may be toxic. Today I am going to disucss with you how to set boundaries in the relationships. There are three steps to this.
Have you ever been in a toxic friendship? Did you have the courage to "break up" with them and get out? Toxic friends often leave you feeling worse than better. They tend to cut you down rather than support you. You may feel drained, agitated, and emotionally bankrupt after time with them. They usually only take from you, and the focus is all on them.
One of books I've found to be wonderful and full of insight is So Long, Insecurity by Beth Moore.
Beth addresses the main issue many women struggle with internally of insecurity. However, on the outside, this insecurity comes out as defensive, critical, controlling, & indignant behavior. In this book, Beth explores & welcomes the male perspective, how the men in each of our lives want to see us
One of the most important parts of positive communication skills is being a good listener. When you listen, a person feels cared about, important, heard, and loved. Being a good listener can help all your relationships achieve more depth and intimacy. That's why we are giving you an attainable goal each day this week to help you become a better listener.
Have you ever taken a good hard look at your life or your marriage and realized, "This isn't working anymore, but I don't know what to do?" Well, this week, Imagine Hope is going to go over some of the things we see in marriages (and life in general) that need to be REMOVED in order for individuals and marriages to be successful. Maybe you're caught up in a negative thinking pattern, nag too much, or are overly critical. Or, maybe you have an addiction or are having an affair that needs to be removed in order for your life or marriage to get back to it's winning percentage.
You've heard the saying, "The grass grows where it's watered". As with grass and plants, so it is in our relationships. The more effort and time you give to it, the more it will grow and weather life's challenges. That's why I love this weeks topic. It's not just about sex, it's about keeping the relationship ALIVE!
Ever receive a small gift or thank-you note unexpectedly? Remember how special it felt to receive it? The same applies in marriage too. Let your spouse know you're thinking of them when you're apart. Figure out your mate's love language and run with it! If your spouse is someone whose love language is Verbal Affirmations, then send positive, loving texts to them throughout the day,
It's 4th of July week, so fireworks are Imagine Hope's focus! Fireworks in your marriage that is ;)
The beginning of relationships can feel like fireworks. The passion, the desire to see them and talk to them, and the drug like euphoria are all common parts of the enmeshment phase of a relationship.
This week, Imagine Hope is discussing what it means to be an introvert.
Some people assume that being an introvert means that you are shy. That is not necessarily true! Introverts can be very outgoing and sociable people. In fact, many times, introverts love people-- learning about others, doing things for others, and can be very loyal, caring and loving individuals. As Christy mentioned on Monday in this weeks earlier blog series, the difference with introverts is that, usually, they need to "re-fuel" their emotional, mental, spiritual and physical "tank" by doing things that are more solitary and self-reflecting.
Memorial Day can be a great time for family and friends to get together and celebrate having a day off at the beginning of summer. But many use the day to memorialize lost loved ones, lost opportunities, and fallen soldiers. This week Imagine Hope is sharing our personal meanings behind this special day!
What Memorial Day means to by Teri-
When I think of Memorial Day my first thought is friends and family. This day historically is a day that I celebrate great relationships in my life. I love having a backyard BBQ and relaxing with laughs and fun conversations. It's a great time for me to catch up with those I've missed and to slow down and just "be" with them. So much of my life I am moving from one thing to the next and continually make promises that "We will get together soon- I promise." The next thing I know months have gone by and the promise has been broken. Taking a break to nurture relationships gives Memorial Day special meaning and reminds me that if I don't slow down in life and put the effort in with the ones I love, I will miss out on extremely special times.
I wish each of you a special and safe Memorial Day and hope you take advantage of the time to slow down and connect with those you love. You never know when you'll get your next opportunity! Check in tomorrow to see what Memorial Day means to Tammy!
Written by guest blogger Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW, LCAC
Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW, LCAC is a licensed therapist at Renewed Horizon Counseling. Teri does virtual therapy for residents of Indiana and Florida using videoconferencing technology. Teri enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling. Teri also does family counseling and adolescent counseling.
As we are looking at different tips for healthy dating this week, we also want to ask ourselves if we have these qualities ourselves. It is important for us to be the person we actually want to date. Today we are asking does this person treat you equally? Pose this same question to yourself- do you treat the person you are dating equally as well?
No one in a relationship should feel inferior or superior to the other. We each bring positive and negative characteristics to relationships and no one is better or worse than the other.
I have many clients who are in different stages of dating—clients who are contemplating putting themselves “out there”, clients who are actively dating and in a relationship, or even clients who have recently ended a relationship. I think this week’s blog is full of good tips and insight!
You can tell a lot about a person by their ability or inability to forgive. Those who forgive easily often show grace and understanding, knowing that everyone makes mistakes. They are able to express their feelings and explain why they were hurt. They can use the hurtful situation as a way to grow with their partner.
This week we're discussing key points to pay attention to if you're in the dating world. Yesterday we discussed boundaries - to note whether or not the person you're dating exhibits them. Today we're going to discuss another key point: Responsibility.
Does the person you're dating take responsibility for their life? "Life" can mean a whole lot of things, can't it?
Does this person hold a job? Do they arrive at their place of employment on time and stay until it's time to leave? Someone who is responsible will not cut corners by showing up late and/or trying to leave early. A responsible person understands the value of hard work no matter their job title.