Codependency

Toxic Friendships - Saying Goodbye

Toxic Friendships - Saying Goodbye

This week, Imagine Hope is discussing 5 different tips to getting out of a toxic friendship.  If you haven't read our earlier blogs, feel free to go back and check out the first 3 tips from earlier this week! So far, we have talked about recognizing what your role is in allowing the toxic relationship to continue, we have encouraged you to talk a neutral party and to set boundaries with the relationship.  What can you do if that isn't working?

Toxic Friendships - Set Boundaries

Toxic Friendships - Set Boundaries

Friendships are the sunshine in our lives. Yes, all friendships go thru problems or struggles, but for the most part, a friendship needs to be a bright spot in your life. If it's not, and usually brings you down or causes you a lot of grief, it may be toxic. Today I am going to disucss with you how to set boundaries in the relationships. There are three steps to this.

Toxic Friendships - Acknowledge It

Toxic Friendships - Acknowledge It

Have you ever been in a toxic friendship? Did you have the courage to "break up" with them and get out? Toxic friends often leave you feeling worse than better. They tend to cut you down rather than support you. You may feel drained, agitated, and emotionally bankrupt after time with them. They usually only take from you, and the focus is all on them.

Great Self-Help Book Recommendation by Tamara

Great Self-Help Book Recommendation by Tamara

One of books I've found to be wonderful and full of insight is So Long, Insecurity by Beth Moore. 

Beth addresses the main issue many women struggle with internally of insecurity. However, on the outside, this insecurity comes out as defensive, critical, controlling, & indignant behavior. In this book, Beth explores & welcomes the male perspective, how the men in each of our lives want to see us

More Things To Remove From Your Life Part 4

More Things To Remove From Your Life Part 4

What is one definite way to ruin communication, trust and intimacy in your relationships? Passive-Aggressive behaviors and indirect communication. 

Addictions- Relationships

Addictions- Relationships

As we continue to discuss Addictions this week, it is important to identify Relationship Addictions. We see this a lot at Imagine Hope. Again, it is one of the Addictions that is hard to recognize if you don't understand what it is. It is "acceptable". You've heard people say, and there was even a song written about it, "They are just addicted to love". This can actually happen. 

Signs Your Marriage Is In Trouble: Gossiping

Signs Your Marriage Is In Trouble: Gossiping

Teri, Natalie, and Tammy have shared some insightful ways to learn more about the state of your marriage.  Today we will finish up this blog series with a few more ways of knowing if your marriage is in trouble:

  • You find yourself "venting" to your friends and family about your spouse.

Psychology and TV Families Starring "All in the Family"

Psychology and TV Families Starring "All in the Family"

I am LOVING reading this weeks blogs about dysfunctional TV families. I like to think of the beauty of family in the friendships in Golden Girls. I love how they created their own family when they were no longer with their own. 

My husband has had to sit through episode after episode of All in the Family with me. It's funny because you would think someone like me would never put up with the first 20 minutes of that show. 

Psychology and TV Families Starring "The Brady Bunch"

Psychology and TV Families Starring "The Brady Bunch"

At Imagine Hope we help many blended families.  I am currently in a blended family and I come from a blended family.  Perhaps that is why my sister Natalie (who I never refer to as my step sister) and I loved to watch the reruns of The Brady Bunch.  Since our “group had somehow formed a family”, Natalie and I would pretend to be Marcia and Jan when we were little.  We probably watched every episode multiple times.  I am sure we wondered, “why can’t our older brother be as nice as Greg?” or “why can’t we have a live-in maid as nice as Alice?” 

Taking Care of Yourself Through A Divorce: Adjusting

Taking Care of Yourself Through A Divorce: Adjusting

Evaluate your relationships and make whatever life adjustments you feel are necessary. During a divorce, you might encounter many "Monday Morning Quarterbacks"... the people who feel like they need to give you advice on what you should have done differently, or those that might think you need to hear them repeatedly "bash" your soon-to-be-ex.  Perhaps there are people around you that encourage you do things that are self-destructive (like trying to set you up on a date, thinking it will ease your transition period...

Decrease Holiday Stress- Boundaries Around Time

Decrease Holiday Stress- Boundaries Around Time

Teri and Tamara have done such a great job sharing ways to decrease holiday stress pertaining to families. I want to share with you some tips to help you keep boundaries with yourself and everyone concerning your time. It is so easy to get caught up in everything, want to do every activity, and go to every event. It is also difficult to say no during this time. But it is important not to crowd your schedule so much that you don't enjoy the peace the season brings. Here are a few tips to navigate that. 

Signs of Hidden Anger: 18-23

So far, we have seen 17 different signs that can tell you if you might have hidden anger.  As Natalie and Tammy have shared, many of them can mimic signs of depression.  In 18-23, you might also recognize these signs of hidden anger can also feel similar to anxiety.

18.  Clenched jaws-- especially while sleeping.

19.  Facial tics, spasmodic foot movements, habitual fist clenching and similar repeated physical acts done unintentionally or unaware.

20.  Grinding of teeth-- especially while sleeping.

21.  Chronic depression... extended periods of feeling down for no reason.

22.  Chronically stiff or sore neck or shoulder muscles.

23.  Stomach ulcers.

There is a lot of research out there that suggests that people with hidden resentments and anger have higher instances of physical illness and disease such as cancer and heart disease.  Are you struggling with unresolved, hidden anger?  It could be very beneficial for you to dive into this!  Find out what it's all about and gain peace within your heart, mind, and body today!

Joleen Watson, MS, LMFT, NCC, is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. She enjoys doing marriage counseling, relationship counseling, couples counseling, and individual counseling.  Imagine Hope also specializes in family, child and adolescent counseling and serves Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield, and Fishers.

What Does It Mean to "Let Go"? Part 5

What Does It Mean to "Let Go"? Part 5

 "Letting Go" is a popular topic in recovery from many things-- childhood issues, addictions, codependency, and unhealthy relationships, just to name a few.  Today we will finish with this week's blog series on what it means to "let go":

What Does it Mean to “Let Go”? Part 3

What Does it Mean to “Let Go”? Part 3

Some of us are better at letting go than others. We all struggle with this concept at some point during our lives. The sensation of holding on gives us this false sense of control, security, and drains us of our energy. Sometimes, we hold on anyway because we do not know how to let go. I hope this week gives you some hints as to how to make that happen.

What Does It Mean to "Let Go"? Part 1

What Does It Mean to "Let Go"? Part 1

Day after day we hear people talk about the difficulty they have with letting things go. Sometimes it's related to codependency and the trouble they have with not controlling others. Sometimes it's when a person has trouble with an addict in their life. Others just have trouble letting go of old wounds and resentments. So we thought we would help our readers see what "letting go" actually means, and clear up any misconceptions about it.

    What Does it Mean When You Have Abandonment Issues? Part 5

    What Does it Mean When You Have Abandonment Issues? Part 5

    Imagine Hope Counseling Group has been discussing abandonment issues this week. If you haven’t gotten a chance to read the earlier posts in this series, we encourage you to read