The term “Adult child of an alcoholic” isn’t just about growing up in an alcoholic environment. It’s about growing up in dysfunction.
Much if the information we see from past years on “adult children” pertains to children of alcoholics— but has now expanded to include any type of dysfunctional setting. If you did not grow up with alcoholism but lived, for example, with other compulsive behaviors such as gambling, drug use, or overeating, or you had a parent who modeled codependent behavior, if you experienced chronic illness of a parent or profound religious attitudes, or you were adopted, lived in foster care or another potentially dysfunctional systems, you may find that you identify with the characteristics we are talking about this week.
Much of what is found to be true for adult children of alcoholics is also true for countless others. Understanding this can help you feel less alone and empower you to conquer the dysfunction, rather than live in it as a curse.
This week Imagine Hope is sharing traits of an Adult Child of an Alcoholic. If you relate to any of these characteristics, you may need to do some healing from the dysfunctional environment from your past.
- Adult children of alcoholics guess what normal behavior is. They feel unsure about what they "should" do in basis life situations.
- Adult children of alcoholics have difficulty following a project through from beginning to end. They tend to lack motivation and follow through. Failure then becomes inevitable.
- Adult children of alcoholics lie when it would be just as easy to tell the truth. Hiding and keeping secrets are a common coping mechanism that become normal, they don't always do it intentionally.
Remember these traits apply to many other types of dysfunction than just alcoholism. Keep reading this week for more traits and resources!
Written by guest blogger, Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW
Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW is a licensed therapist at Renewed Horizons Counseling. Teri provides virtual therapy to clients residing in Florida and Indiana. She enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling.
Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Zionsville, and Westfield.