The term “Adult child of an alcoholic” isn’t just about growing up in an alcoholic environment. It’s about growing up in dysfunction.
Freedom #2: To Say What One Feels and Thinks Instead of What One Should Feel and Think There's that "Should" word again. Whenever you use the word "Should", you're placing judgement on something/yourself. "I Should feel this way" I Should think this way".....basically you're trying to talk yourself into CHANGING your feelings.
Virginia Satir was a pioneer in the therapy world in bringing amazing concepts to life to help individuals, families, and couples. She looked at the importance of the "experience" of life and how to make it a positive one. She connected the importance of our 5 senses and what impact they have on our experiences.
This week we are talking about secrets! Secrets come in many forms. There are healthy secrets, but also toxic ones. What is the difference? A toxic secret is one that will block you from intimacy and puts walls between you and your loved one. Support4change.com says, toxic secrets “hide a part of your heart, disguise your vulnerability which denies a gift to your loved one, or prevents your loved one from supporting you.”
This week we are talking about how to find peace. It seems everyone we meet on our couch truly wants the same thing....peace. Their pursuits of how they all get it may be different, even if it's through the pursuit of happiness. But ultimately, they want peace. There is a lot of wisdom for peace in the Serenity Prayer. So we thought that would be a great place for us to start. If you haven't already read part 1 of this blog, I encourage you to do so before moving forward.
Stress can creep up on you, but if you've got a good list of stress-relieving tips you like to practice, you can feel better in no time! Here are a few more tips:
- Take time for yourself to do something you enjoy
- Organize your life so you don't spend time looking for things
- Eliminate unnecessary commitments
- Delegate responsibility
Stress comes in all forms and is an unavoidable part of life. Ideally the best thing would be to eliminate as much as you can, but when there is stubborn stress that keeps sticking around, there certainly are ways to cope with it. This week Imagine Hope wants you to look at these tips and pick several that seem doable to implement into your day to day life.
As Teri shared yesterday, an inability to love ourselves extends to being unable to accept love from others. But where do we start? It's easier said than done, but there are manageable starting points for each of us. This week we're going to discuss ways that we can love ourselves. Some ways will apply and some will not.
Teri, Tammy and Natalie have shared some really helpful tips so far in ways to decrease Holiday stress, which helps each of us to enjoy the Holiday season better. Today I'm going to go over ways we can continue the tradition of giving during the holiday season without stressing ourselves and our bank accounts. Tip number 4 is to watch your spending.
Clients tell me all the time, “I hate the holidays”. There are many stressors as people are attending family gatherings and trying to meet everyone’s expectations for the season. We hope reading this week helps you stay focused on making this holiday season less stressful! Keep your emotional boundaries firm
We're continuing our discussion this week on exit we do in relationships. We exit a relationship when we feel pain, overwhelming emotion, or flooding with a lot of feelings. We hope this week's blog provides insight into otherwise unhealthy behavior.
We exit when we can't find the language to express our feelings.
This week as we explore conflict resolution tips, see if you can recognize strengths you already possess in this area, along with skills you need to sharpen a bit more. Here are a few more tips to make conflict more productive:
6. Eliminate cheap shots and "below the belt" comments. Conflict is to be respectful, using respectful words and phrases.