communication

How To Communicate Better Part 4

How To Communicate Better Part 4

Teri, Tammy, and Natalie have all shared some great tips so far to making our communication better. Here are a few more to add to your "relationship toolbox":

Remember that communication breakdowns aren't always personal.  Many times the issue at hand is linked to some deep rooted unresolved issues.  Try to empathize with your partner as they are trying to heal from a painful past.

How To Communiate Better Part 3

How To Communiate Better Part 3

Are you starting to understand that healthy communication is achievable? It is how you handle it that is important! Have you tried any of the tips so far? Here are 5 more to help:

Remember this isn't a competition. Having a win/lose mentality will only hurt your relationship and break down the connection and intimacy you have with your partner. This mind set actually creates two losers, not just one. There is no room for comments like, "I told you so" in healthy communication.

How To Communicate Better Part 2

How To Communicate Better Part 2

As Teri mentioned yesterday, disagreements can be healthy, as long as it's done in a respectful way. Healthy conflict can be one of the ways you and another person grow closer. It's natural for people to disappoint us in our lives, but how we handle it is key. Continue to follow tips for healthier communication steps this week, and you'll find yourself more successful at tackling difficult conversations.

How to Communicate Better Part 1

How to Communicate Better Part 1

All relationships have conflict at some point. Many couples try to avoid it mostly because they don’t know how to make fighting work “for” their relationship. Conflict within communication can be a good thing if done correctly. It allows each person to be honest with themselves and their partner about their opinions and desires. This week Imagine Hope wants you make your communication better.

Strategies for Dealing with Anger- Part 4

Strategies for Dealing with Anger- Part 4

Hopefully you are learning ways to handle anger this week. A reminder that anger is normal, it's how you handle it that is negative or positive. We changed gears in yesterday's blog- focusing on how we can handle someone's anger in a relationship. This is a continuation of that.

Empathetic Listening

It is amazing how a calming, listening ear can calm an angry soul. Sometimes when my kids are very angry I will encourage them to tell me what is going on (after some time to cool down and get it out of course!)

Strategies For Dealing With Anger - Part 3

Strategies For Dealing With Anger - Part 3

Anger is a normal, healthy emotion that we all experience. It becomes unhealthy when we bottle it, don’t fight fair, and use it to manipulate. Here are some additional tips to help you deal with anger-in a HEALTHY way:

Nonavoidance

Like Tamara mentioned yesterday, carefronting is a healthy formula to address issues and frustrations experienced by couples.

Strategies For Dealing With Anger - Part 1

Strategies For Dealing With Anger - Part 1

Anger is normal. We all feel it from time to time. We shouldn't see anger as "bad" or try to avoid getting angry. However, HOW we show our anger and process it can be what gets us in trouble.

This week we are sharing tips to help deal with your anger in healthy ways.

Have Some Fighting Rules

Getting angry during a fight is common, but sometimes unhealthy expression of anger can cause a fight to get intense.

The Five Freedoms: Taking Risks

The Five Freedoms:  Taking Risks

Freedom #5:  To take risks in one's own behalf instead of choosing to be only "secure" and not rocking the boat. We have all probably been in a situation where we've had something bothering us, but have been too afraid to bring it up or make a change because of how this confrontation might effect things.

The Five Freedoms: To Ask For What You Want

The Five Freedoms: To Ask For What You Want

Freedom #4: To Ask for What One Wants Instead of Always Waiting For Permission Many people struggle with telling people what they really want or need. They are afraid they will appear "needy" or not strong. Usually when someone grows up in a family where their needs were secondary or they were punished (emotionally or physically) for having needs, they grow up thinking they shouldn't (there's that word again!) have any needs.

The Five Freedoms: To Feel

The Five Freedoms: To Feel

Freedom #3: To Feel What One Feels and not what one “ought” to feel. It has happened to all of us.  We are in a situation where we are “should” feel happy or sad, but really we feel something completely different.  The reality is that there is no “should” when it comes to feelings.  We spend a lot of time and energy denying what we truly feel or hiding our true feelings from others.  Hiding or not accepting our true feelings can lead to shame or self-doubt.

The Five Freedoms: To Say

The Five Freedoms: To Say

Freedom #2: To Say What One Feels and Thinks Instead of What One Should Feel and Think There's that "Should" word again. Whenever you use the word "Should", you're placing judgement on something/yourself. "I Should feel this way" I Should think this way".....basically you're trying to talk yourself into CHANGING your feelings.

Secrets: The Difference Between Toxic and Healthy Secrets

Secrets:  The Difference Between Toxic and Healthy Secrets

So now you know what toxic and healthy secrets look like and how they impact your relationships… How do you know the difference between the two?  Here are some questions to ask yourself that might help you determine the difference:

Secrets: The Difference Between Healthy and Toxic Secrets

Secrets:  The Difference Between Healthy and Toxic Secrets

Teri and Tammy have discussed both toxic secrets and healthy secrets, but how do each of them impact our relationships with others? Toxic Secrets:

  • Create an unsafe relationship which makes intimacy difficult, if not impossible, to have

  • Create distance between the secret keeper and the one who is kept in the dark

Secrets: Healthy Secrets

Secrets:  Healthy Secrets

You might be surprised to know that there are secrets that are indeed "healthy". Support4Change.com gives a great rule of thumb. They say: "Healthy Secrets bring you closer to your loved ones, while toxic secrets create barriers". Healthy secrets build relationships & create a sense of closeness between you and another person. So, what exactly are some examples of a Healthy Secret? Here are some below:

Secrets: Toxic Secrets

Secrets:  Toxic Secrets

This week we are talking about secrets! Secrets come in many forms. There are healthy secrets, but also toxic ones. What is the difference? A toxic secret is one that will block you from intimacy and puts walls between you and your loved one. Support4change.com says, toxic secrets “hide a part of your heart, disguise your vulnerability which denies a gift to your loved one, or prevents your loved one from supporting you.”

Create Fireworks in Your Marriage When You Flirt!

Create Fireworks in Your Marriage When You Flirt!

You've heard the saying, "The grass grows where it's watered". As with grass and plants, so it is in our relationships. The more effort and time you give to it, the more it will grow and weather life's challenges. That's why I love this weeks topic. It's not just about sex, it's about keeping the relationship ALIVE!