As we continue to talk about anger, some of these next few may be surprising. Alone, they can be signs of depression or sleeping disorder problems. The key is to pay attention to see if you identify with most of these hidden anger signs. If you do, seek help.
Anger is an extremely powerful emotion that can often consume people if it is not processed effectively. Many people allow things to build up over time. They hold grudges which brew under the surface. Hidden anger can have symptoms that many people might pass off as someone's personality or just having a bad day. But if you see many of these together for a long period of time, you may have some hidden anger that is controlling your life
In addition to what Teri, Tammy, and Natalie spoke about in their blogs, here are 3 additional tips for effective communication I see are helpful when working with couples:
Reducing defensive responses when your partner gives you constructive criticism, or when your partner shares how they are feeling about something going on in the relationship. When you become defensive and reactive, you create an unsafe environment for your partner to share their feelings.
As Natalie discussed yesterday in Part 4 of our blog series on forgiveness, it's important to try and hang onto forgiveness, once you have gone through the steps of the process. While she discussed some different ways you can make the commitment to forgiveness, what happens if you are struggling with this, and the memories continue to come back?
With both, you experience a loss. However with grief, the more time that elapses, the intensity of the loss decreases. With abandonment, the difference is that the loss feels personal. The intensity of the loss does not decrease because it feels personal.
As Teri mentioned yesterday, disagreements can be healthy, as long as it's done in a respectful way. Healthy conflict can be one of the ways you and another person grow closer. It's natural for people to disappoint us in our lives, but how we handle it is key. Continue to follow tips for healthier communication steps this week, and you'll find yourself more successful at tackling difficult conversations.
This week, we are discussing the ever sought after goal of many of our clients— peace. Peace of heart, peace of mind, a peaceful home, peaceful relationships, or a peaceful work environment. The issues we see in our office that bring couples, families and individuals to therapy may vary, but underneath the presenting problem is usually the same core struggle: Whatever is going on in their life feels chaotic, unsettling, insecure, or just simply without peace.
9. The best way to parent in a positive way is to take care of you. Make sure you get enough rest, good nutrition, and some time for yourself when possible. This might require you actually scheduling time for yourself to make it happen. 10. Have good parental boundaries. Don't treat your child as a friend, confidante, or confess things to your child that are inappropriate. This becomes confusing for a child and interferes with parental discipline.
11. Don't expect to be a perfect parent-- there is no such thing! Everyone makes mistakes, even the most loving parents. If you do find yourself having continuous difficulty or feel yourself becoming out of control, please seek professional help. Patterns of abuse can be prevented by early intervention.
Joleen Watson, MS, LMFTA, NCC, is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. She enjoys doing marriage counseling, relationship counseling, couples counseling, and individual counseling. Imagine Hope also specializes in family, child and adolescent counseling and serves Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield, and Fishers.
There is a lot of talk about anxiety these days, but what exactly is it? Usually, with fear, we are able to name what we are fearful of. The feeling of anxiety is closely related to a mild feeling of fear, however, with anxiety, it is often more difficult to know exactly what is making us feel anxious or uneasy.