Relationships

Taking Care of Yourself Through A Divorce: Support Systems

Taking Care of Yourself Through A Divorce: Support Systems

Divorce is a major life-change that many individuals go through. It's difficult, confusing and chaotic at times. This week we'd like to offer you some recommendations to help you take are of yourself if you find yourself in the middle of a divorce:

1. Find Some Stability- Throughout this process there will be alot of disruption. Lots of meetings with lawyers & mediators, lots of packing, lots of emotions. Try to find some sort of normalcy as much as you can.

Maintaining a Relationship Connection Part 4

Maintaining a Relationship Connection Part 4

This week we are talking about tangible ways to keep a relationship connection. Notice we didn't say "easy". Unfortunately with the busyness of life, it's not easy to to make our relationships a priority. It can be difficult to find the time to do things to keep them maintained. Relationships are like plants. If you neglect them, they will slowly wither up and die. It's important to have good maintenance.

Maintaining Your Relationship Connection Part 1

Maintaining Your Relationship Connection Part 1

Are things going smooth in your relationship? Do you feel connected and close? Congrats! We are so excited for you! Getting to a good place in your marriage can be a long hard road. Many couples we work with are able to achieve connection, but they fear that things will go down hill over time.

Talks To Have Before Getting Married: Conflict Styles and Common Interests

Talks To Have Before Getting Married:  Conflict Styles and Common Interests

If you are presently engaged to be married, we send you our warmest congratulations! The time of dating and engagement is exciting and promising-- a time where couples dream of a future together and feel the promise of a great future with their soon-to-be spouse.  Unfortunately, many of us don't learn the "in's and out's" of what it takes to make a marriage work, which can end up in feelings of great disappointment once the "I do's" have taken place.

Talks To Have Before Getting Married: Communication Styles

Talks To Have Before Getting Married: Communication Styles

If you are reading this, there is probably a Congratulations in order?? Well congrats! Or you may be a parent or friend, reading this to pass along the information. Your child or friend will thank you later ;) So far we have learned of the importance of talking about expectations, roles and rules, and styles of love. Today we will talk about communication.

Talks to Have Before Getting Married: Relationship Rules

Talks to Have Before Getting Married: Relationship Rules

Whether you realize it or not, you have relationship rules and role expectations. It's how we believe things are going to be when we're married. It's how the man and the woman are going to "act" or what each person is going to be in charge of in the marriage

Talks to Have Before Getting Married: My Expectations

Talks to Have Before Getting Married: My Expectations

Imagine Hope is getting several calls each week for people who want to save their marriage before it starts! Couples are starting to realize that they need to do more planning for their marriage while they plan their wedding. Many get caught up in the thrill of engagement and wedding stuff, that they loose sight of all the things that go into having a successful marriage

Decrease Holiday Stress- Boundaries Around Time

Decrease Holiday Stress- Boundaries Around Time

Teri and Tamara have done such a great job sharing ways to decrease holiday stress pertaining to families. I want to share with you some tips to help you keep boundaries with yourself and everyone concerning your time. It is so easy to get caught up in everything, want to do every activity, and go to every event. It is also difficult to say no during this time. But it is important not to crowd your schedule so much that you don't enjoy the peace the season brings. Here are a few tips to navigate that. 

Signs of Hidden Anger: 18-23

So far, we have seen 17 different signs that can tell you if you might have hidden anger.  As Natalie and Tammy have shared, many of them can mimic signs of depression.  In 18-23, you might also recognize these signs of hidden anger can also feel similar to anxiety.

18.  Clenched jaws-- especially while sleeping.

19.  Facial tics, spasmodic foot movements, habitual fist clenching and similar repeated physical acts done unintentionally or unaware.

20.  Grinding of teeth-- especially while sleeping.

21.  Chronic depression... extended periods of feeling down for no reason.

22.  Chronically stiff or sore neck or shoulder muscles.

23.  Stomach ulcers.

There is a lot of research out there that suggests that people with hidden resentments and anger have higher instances of physical illness and disease such as cancer and heart disease.  Are you struggling with unresolved, hidden anger?  It could be very beneficial for you to dive into this!  Find out what it's all about and gain peace within your heart, mind, and body today!

Joleen Watson, MS, LMFT, NCC, is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. She enjoys doing marriage counseling, relationship counseling, couples counseling, and individual counseling.  Imagine Hope also specializes in family, child and adolescent counseling and serves Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield, and Fishers.

How Fear Affects Your Family Life

How Fear Affects Your Family Life

This week, Imagine Hope is honoring Halloween by discussing the different ways that (real) fear can have a negative impact on our lives.  

How does fear potentially impact our family system?

How Fear Affects Your Relationships

How Fear Affects Your Relationships

Happy Halloween! Fear is in the air. Many will celebrate with scary movies, scary songs, & scary costumes. But Halloween isn't the only time of year that we talk about, experience or notice fear.

Fear can be a constant companion in many areas of our lives. This week we want to discuss those areas and how fear can affect them.

Communicating Effectively with Your Partner - Stop Being Defensive

Communicating Effectively with Your Partner - Stop Being Defensive

In addition to what Teri, Tammy, and Natalie spoke about in their blogs, here are 3 additional tips for effective communication I see are helpful when working with couples:

Reducing defensive responses when your partner gives you constructive criticism, or when your partner shares how they are feeling about something going on in the relationship. When you become defensive and reactive, you create an unsafe environment for your partner to share their feelings.

Communicating Effectively with Your Partner - Stop Interrupting Them

Communicating Effectively with Your Partner - Stop Interrupting Them

I agree with the effective communication tips Teri and Tammy have shared and would add the following as well: 

Making a lot of assumptions about what the other partner is thinking. I see this a lot. One partner assumes what the other is thinking and reacts based on what they believe.

Communicating Effectively with Your Partner - Stop Blaming Them

Communicating Effectively with Your Partner - Stop Blaming Them

This week we're trying to help couples prevent heartache by naming the mistakes we see most often in our office. Yesterday we discussed sweeping things under the rug, expecting a one-hour session to make everything better, & keeping work life separate from home life. Today we build on these common mistakes:

Fighting about too many things at once. It’s hard to follow a disagreement when you’re fighting about this, that, & the kitchen sink.