As Teri and Tammy have mentioned, feeling loved allows us to have SO much to give back to a relationship-- whether romantic, friendship, or family. Each time we make a "deposit" in the other person's "love tank", we are helping the other person feel cared for, as well as "investing" in the relationship by making that deposit. As previously mentioned, the 5 Love Languages are: Quality Time, Gifts, Acts of Service, Words of Affirmation, and Physical Touch. What is the following Love Language? One of the times in my life where I felt most loved was when my Dad was alive, during the 2 years right after I had moved to Indianapolis from my hometown. My Dad used to plan trips to Indianapolis for different "events" that were going on in the city, or plan his company meetings in Indy, just so he could come and visit me. We would take in the different "sights" of Indianapolis, go out to dinner at places I had been and wanted to share with him, and he would go shopping with me for different things I needed for my apartment or office. We spent time hanging out and talking at my "new place" (5 hours away from "home"), and he would help me with projects that I had intended to do. It wasn't that he was "helping" me that made me feel so loved... it was that he was taking the time out of his busy schedule and investing in my internal world-- the things that were important to me.
Can you figure out what my Love Language is? Answer: Quality Time.
If you haven't already figured out your own Love Language this week during our blog series, I encourage you to do so! Also, as Tammy mentioned earlier, it's a great idea to know the Love Languages of those around you, as well.
Check back next week, where we will be discussing something I think everyone can relate to in some way or another... SECRETS! We will discuss both TOXIC secrets, as well as HEALTHY secrets and how they impact our relationships. Until then, thank you for reading!
Joleen Watson, MS, NCC, is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. She enjoys doing marriage counseling, relationship counseling, couples counseling, and individual counseling. Imagine Hope also specializes in family, child and adolescent counseling and serves Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield, and Fishers.