Feeling loved is important in all close relationships. It's what draws us into intimacy with a person. If we don't feel loved we will likely hold back and build emotional walls. Not only is this vital in romantic relationships, but also in parenting and friendships. Be sure you figure out what your love language is AND your loved ones. Often times they are different and you will need to be intentional to speak your loved ones language to ensure they feel your love. Now it's time to guess another example. Remember the five love languages are: Acts of Service, Gifts, Physical Touch, Words of Affirmation, and Quality Time. You can refer back to our blogs from November 9-13, 2009 for the detailed descriptions.
Teri's response to "When have you felt most loved?"
Since I already answered this question on Monday I will share with you my secondary love language. I don't like to assume anything, which means I prefer someone to tell me how they feel. Verbal praise, acknowledgment, and recognition can really lift me up. Just as much as words can help, they can also break me down. When my husband gives me a compliment, tells me he likes my haircut, or genuinely says "Thank you", "I'm so sorry", or "I love you" it assures me I am loved. The written word also speaks volumes. Just yesterday my husband and son left a note in my car while I was working. That gesture meant so much to me. It's not uncommon that my husband and I will leave each other a surprise message on the shower wall with a bathtub crayon. When this happens my heart feels warm and my love tank fills up.
Can you guess what my secondary love language is?
Answer: Words of Affirmation
Written by Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW
Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW is a licensed therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Teri enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling. Teri also does family counseling, child counseling, and adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Zionsville, and Westfield.