Forgiveness Tips 4 & Resources

  • Forgiving someone is not saying you are ok with what they did. Many people worry that forgiving someone sends the message that they are condoning a person's behavior. It is not about making a moral judgment, but about you being free from holding onto the pain. They will suffer natural consequences for their actions. It is not necessary for you to be the "punisher" of their actions.


  • Forgiving someone does not mean you have to be friends with them. Some people are not emotionally safe for you to be around. For example, if you or someone you love, has been abused by someone, you can choose to forgive that person. However, it would not be in your best interest to continually allow yourself to be in your abusers presence. Forgiving them does not mean you have to let them back into your world.

If you need more resources on Forgiveness, here are some that we have found helpful:

Forgiveness: The Path to Happiness by Sandra Summerfield Kozak

Forgiveness: How to Make Peace With Your Past and Get on With Your Life by Sidney B. Simon & Suzanne Simon

Total Forgiveness by R.T. Kendall

Forgiving Our Parents, Forgiving Ourselves: Healing Adult Children of Dysfunctional Families by David A. Stoop & James Masteller

How Can I Forgive You: The Courage to Forgive, the Freedom Not To by Janis A. Springs

Thanks for reading this week. Have a great weekend!

Written by: Tamara Portee MA, LMHC, LCAC

*Tamara enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, & couples counseling at Imagine Hope. We also specialize in family counseling, child & adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield & Fishers.