AH-HA! Moments and life changing experiences-Teri

Ever had an AH-HA moment? What about a moment that altered your life's course? This week we are each sharing one of our AH-HA and life changing moments with you! As you walk life's journey we hope you will pay attention to these moments and give them the acknowledgment they deserve. A single moment could change your life! Teri's Life Changing Moment

I've struggled with control issues for a long time. As a child there were many moments I felt totally out of control, so my natural coping mechanism was to attempt to control as much as I can. My control issues are more about myself rather than the people around me. My future plans, expectations of myself, goals, etc, all got lost in this notion that I could have complete power over it. This thought process was turned upside down when I heard the words "I'm sorry. You've had a miscarriage" four years ago and then again 2 years later. What? That wasn't part of the plan! My body wasn't supposed to fail me in that way! My grief process of loosing my first child was a life altering experience. It put all of my control issues into perspective and helped me see that there are many things in my life that I can't and won't be able to control. As I grieved the loss of my child, I also shed tears and let go of my false belief system that I was super woman and could control my whole life. As painful as this loss is, it brought me to a much needed fork in my life's path. From that moment on, I chose to turn down the road of controlling those things I knew I could and giving myself grace on things I couldn't. As a result, I have a much healthier life physically, emotionally, and spiritually. My heart will forever ache for the 2 children I have lost, however, I thank them for showing me a new way of life and I honor them each day I take a step on my new path.

Stay tuned this week to see how each of us have been affected by AH-HA moments!

Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW is a licensed therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Teri enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling. Teri also does family counseling, child counseling, and adolescent counseling.  Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Zionsville, and Westfield.