New Year's Resolutions. Have you given up yet?? We hope not. Change is hard and takes real intention. That's why many people give up on it and don't follow through. They don't plan the intentions. Hopefully this week you are finding some ways to handle change and stick with it.
Accept Uncertainty and Be Optimistic
It's inherently within us to feel some anxiety about the future. It's the one time frame we know absolutely nothing about. We live in a constant state of uncertainty. It's how we handle it that's important. Especially when it comes to making changes. It's easy to try and guess or predict what's going to happen.
When making changes, it's good to see the possible obstacles that may come in your way. That way you can find ways to avoid or work around them. A plan is good. However, thinking of all the negative things that could happen will not do anyone any good. Think positive when thinking of outcomes. Be optimistic. Realize that if you truly give your best and what you are trying to change, most likely you will get the results you want. Accept this is a time of uncertainty, and that's okay.
One thing we try to teach is to remind clients to think of how they will feel if they follow through. For example, if de-cluttering your house is a goal, imagine what it will look like when you are finished. Or even smaller, think of how much better you'll feel taking 10 minutes each day to get rid of stuff vs. waiting until the end of the month and spending 6 hours getting rid of everything. This exercise helps you feel the outcome before you start, hopefully to motivate you to move forward with the change. It's simply being optimistic.
We wish you the best with any changes you may be hoping to make this year. Keep at it! Tomorrow Joleen will give us more tips on handling change. Thank you for reading.
*Natalie Chandler, MA, LMHC, LCAC is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Natalie enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, and couples counseling. We also specialize in family counseling, child, and adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Westfield, and Zionsville.