7. Notice Different Ways Your Spouse Asks for Help Asking for help can be difficult for many people. To some, it symbolizes weakness or vulnerability. That isn't the case. Actually asking for help can show that you are confident enough to realize you can't do everything or know everything, thus a sign of strength. Nonetheless, some people still see it as a weakness and they struggle with asking for help. One thing you can do in your marriage is notice what your spouse may do when they need help. What do they do when they show signs of stress or are feeling overwhelmed? Do they sigh? Or maybe they withdraw and want to be alone? Maybe they complain a lot, hoping someone will notice. The later three may not necessarily be healthy ways of showing someone you need help but many times people have so much shame around needing help, they don't even realize they are doing this. Try not to judge them or ignore them because of how they are asking. Instead offer to help!
8. Put Love into Action We all know that saying I love you, giving a hug, or doing some act of affection can show love. Often times we forget our actions can truly speak louder than words though. A simple act of service can go a long way to make someone feel loved, cared for, and valued. If your husband normally takes out the trash, take out the trash and surprise him. If your wife does the dishes every night, tell her to go relax while you do them. If she gives the kids a bath, bathe them while she goes to the grocery. She will be so happy to have one less thing to do when she gets home.
Simple acts like the ones above will give your spouse space in their life and time to do something they might enjoy. And you can feel good while you are doing it, knowing they are feeling love from you! Many things take just a couple minutes. Yet the love your partner will feel over time when you randomly do things will truly go a long way.
We hope these tips are helping. Find one or two to start with, be intentional about doing them, and then add one or two more once you've mastered the first set. You'll be amazed at how easy it is when you take it in small pieces. Thank you for reading today. Joleen will share 2 more tips tomorrow.
Natalie Chandler, MA, LMHC is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Natalie enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, and couples counseling. We also specialize in family counseling, child, and adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Westfield, and Zionsville