We continue to talk this week about tips to help make your marriage healthier. Although there is not a “cure-all” or “quick fix”, these tips can definitely help move your relationship in a more positive direction: 5. Set Healthy Boundaries. It’s very easy to get caught up in the busyness of life and to take your spouse for granted—or for you to feel taken for granted. When you set healthy boundaries in your marriage, you know what each other’s expectations are. It sends the message of “I am ok/not ok with __________”. When boundaries are set in a marriage, it makes it easier to say “no” when you feel like saying no. When there are not healthy boundaries, partners may find themselves saying yes when they want to say no, and then feelings of anger/resentment may build.
6. Have Empathy. Have you ever had an evening where your spouse walks in the door in a bad mood and you immediately get defensive or angry at them for being in a bad mood? This is an example of not showing your spouse empathy. Empathy allows you to put yourself in your spouse’s shoes. The easiest way to practice empathy is to practice conversation. Once you know why your spouse is in a bad mood, you may actually have some compassion and understanding. Maybe their boss got on them today, something broke at work, or someone cut them off in traffic. Unless you talk, you won’t know why they are struggling. Ask them about their day, and then validate how they are feeling. It truly can make a big difference!
Check back tomorrow for more tips on making your marriage healthier!
Written by Christy Fogg, MSW, LCSW
Christy Fogg, MSW, LCSW is a licensed therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Christy enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling. Christy also provides family counseling, child counseling, and adolescent counseling.
Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Zionsville, and Westfield.