Assert Yourself! – Voice

This we are talking about ways to assert yourself.  Being assertive can be a challenge when you are trying to express yourself in a healthy way—especially if this isn’t your natural way of handling conflict.  Your voice can make the difference between you coming across as being a doormat or being overly aggressive.  Here are 3 things to keep in mind: Volume

If you speak in a quiet, monotone voice, there is a good chance you are going to lose credibility with the other person.  However, if you scream or raise your voice, you will probably intimidate them.  Once they feel like you are attacking them, they will become defensive and nothing productive will be accomplished.

Speak in a clear, expressive manner.  Watch the volume of your voice to make sure you are not too soft or raising it as you speak.  Keep it consistent during your conversation.


A tone of voice is not what you say, but how you say it.  It is your attitude.  Watching your tone is imperative in communicating productively.  Make sure that you are not using your tone to be sarcastic, condescending, or aggressive.  You want your attitude to be one of confidence and mutual respect.


Inflection is the change in the pronunciation, pitch, or tense of a word in order to express a certain attitude.  Similar to tone, it can make or break a conversation.  Make sure that you are not changing the inflection in your voice to intimidate or belittle an individual you are speaking too.  In addition, make sure you don’t come across as nervous or intimidated yourself!

Continue to read this week as we provide more tips to help you assert yourself.  


Written by Christy Fogg, MSW, LCSW

Christy Fogg, MSW, LCSW is a licensed therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group.  Christy enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling.  Christy also provides family counseling, child counseling, and adolescent counseling.

Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Zionsville, and Westfield.