By now, you might have already recognized some ways that you or the people in your life have unhealthy boundaries. Here are a few more to wrap things up:
- Believing others can anticipate your needs
- Expecting other to fill your needs automatically (without having to directly ask)
- Falling apart so someone will take care of you
- Self abuse (e.g., cutting self, burning self, addictions)
- Sexual and physical abuse (and emotional abuse)
- Food abuse
If you recognize any of these signs of unhealthy boundaries in yourself or others, then it is important to work on becoming healthier, in order to be a "safe person". The book recommendation for today is just that! "Safe People" by Henry Cloud and John Townsend. Stay tuned for next weeks blog where we will talk more about safe people...
Joleen Watson, MS, NCC, is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. She enjoys doing marriage counseling, relationship counseling, couples counseling, and individual counseling. Imagine Hope also specializes in family, child and adolescent counseling and serves Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield, and Fishers.