Here at Imagine Hope we often ask our clients to look back at their "little boy" or "little girl" that still lives inside and needs some healing. It's common for us to ask a client to write a letter to their younger self or offer advice to the little kid inside who needs some TLC. So this week we are each going to share a personal version of this from lessons we've have learned in life. We hope these are helpful for you as you walk life's crazy hard journey!
You Are Loved
Dear Younger Teri-
I know there are times you fear that love isn't real. You feel it is conditional and you have to earn it through how perfect you try to be.
There are people who operate that way in this world. But I promise you that there are people who will love you just for you.
Some people won't be in a healthy give and take relationship with you. Others you will never please.... Stop wasting the mental energy trying so you can spend time on things that really matter.
Focus on being real and genuine. Know who you are so you can be her all the time. Don't morph yourself into what others want you to be.
The first step to loving yourself is to stop believing all those critical lies in your head...they are LIES! Learn from your mistakes and the consequences you face. Don't spiral, wallow and condemn yourself for them. You are human and will make mistakes. But that doesn't mean you aren't loveable.
And at the end of the day remember, you are loved by the most important person- Jesus. There is nothing you can do to make Him stop loving you. He loves you and you can't do ANYTHING to change it!
That's where your comfort is...God's love. Not human love. You are made to please God, not humans.
Younger Teri, if only you could see the peace you would feel from seeing yourself the way Jesus sees you. It is such a freeing peace to sit in this love.
Someday you will know and believe me. Until then know that you are loved because I love you.
Written by Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW, LCAC
Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW, LCAC is a licensed therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Teri does virtual therapy for residents of Indiana and Florida using videoconferencing technology. Teri enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling. Teri also does family counseling and adolescent counseling.