This week we are looking at ways to guarantee your child will struggle with their emotional health. So often we talk about what you should do as a parent-validate, be consistent, set boundaries, etc. This week we are coming at it from a different (and yes, a little sarcastic) angle. If you want to ensure your child will be screwed up, follow these simple rules: #3 Ask Your Child to Solve Your Problems
Who needs boundaries?! Feel free to share all of your problems, concerns, worries, and frustrations with your children. Ask them for advice when you need it. Tell them about your money problems, your stress at work, and share the latest gossip with them. Share details about your sex life (or lack thereof). This surely won’t cause them any additional stress or anxiety.
Tell your child they are your best friend. Confide in them. Since you are incapable of taking care of yourself, make sure to share the burden with them. Blur the lines between being a parent and being a child. That’s what they’re there for, right?
#4 Put Down Their Other Parent
Don’t ever show affection to your spouse in front of the children. Criticize your spouse in private with the children and also out in the open for everyone to hear. Alternate between appearing hot and cold with your spouse. This will teach your children what a marriage really looks like.
Throw around the “Divorce” word at least once a week. This will allow your children to feel as unstable as you do. Since you need to share your burdens with them, they should be allowed to hear intimate details of your arguments.
If you are already divorced, continue to bad-mouth their other parent. Remain distant, bitter, and resentful towards your ex, and blame them for everything. Share these feelings with your children so that they may feel the same way towards their other parent that you do. Be sure to send subtle messages to your children that you got divorced because of them. They won’t blame themselves at all!
Continue to read this week as we give you more tips to guarantee you will screw your children up!
*Source: 8 Surefire Ways to Emotionally Screw Up Your Kid by Julie Hanks found on PsychCentral.com
Written by Christy Fogg, MSW, LCSW
Christy Fogg, MSW, LCSW is a licensed therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Christy enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling. Christy also provides family counseling, child counseling, and adolescent counseling.
Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Zionsville, and Westfield.