Here is a story about Jill struggling with a common codependency issue....
One night Jill decided to do some craft projects while watching TV with her husband. The only problem was that she had to get the supplies down the stairs. It wasn’t heavy, just bulky, and after a few tries to get it down the stairs, and a few discussions from the top of the stairs to her husband on the couch, Jill began to get frustrated. She said in her head, “Why doesn’t he just get off the couch and help me?!” “Doesn’t he see I need help?”
Finally Jill's husband asked, “Would you like me to help you?” Yes! He looked at her and said, “I was waiting for you to ask me for help”. It hit Jill like a ton of bricks.
Asking for help…that’s hard to do sometimes. Being independent is something we all pride ourselves on and asking for help can sometimes be seen as a weakness (although that can’t be further from the truth!). But, if we don’t ask for help, others in our lives don’t know what we need & can’t offer their assistance. We also put ourselves at risk for getting overwhelmed and spreading ourselves too thin.
Check back tomorrow for more details about codependency! Written by Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW, LCAC
Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW, LCAC is a licensed therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Teri enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling. Teri also does family counseling, child counseling, and adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Zionsville, and Westfield.