The most important part of seduction is to communicate your desires to your partner. In addition, you need to allow your partner to communicate their desires to you as well. Oftentimes, our sex life becomes lazy the longer we are with our partner. You need to relay to your partner that you still want to please them, in order to avoid a rut. When you do find yourselves in a sexual rut, it’s often because life gets in the way. We have careers, children, bills to pay, a house to clean, etc. Sometimes these things can drain our energy during the day, and we don’t have the energy to “perform” in bed at night. However, when you have sex with spark, it is not an energy drain, but an energy boost!
Stop having the same sex! Seduce your partner, spice up your sex life. Try something or someplace new. Take it out of the bedroom or incorporate a new position, lingerie, or novelty. Try to recreate the sex that you had when you were first together.
Remember what turns your partner on-and do it! Make them feel desired and appreciated. Stop wearing that old nightgown or ripped T-shirt to bed. Put on something seductive and see what happens. Massage your partner’s back or neck. Put on a new perfume/cologne or light some sensual candles. Turn on some music and let it guide you.
Have sex at least twice a week. Make it a priority! When you put the time into it to make it more rewarding, it doesn’t feel like a chore. The key is to seduce your partner, not service them! Explore and communicate your own desires, and be enthusiastic to make your partner feel good. But most of all, have a blast!
Written by guest author Christy Fogg, MSW, LCSW
Christy is a licensed therapist at Journey to Joy Counseling in Carmel, Indiana. She specializes in Individual Counseling, Couples/Marriage Counseling, Premarital Counseling, Family Counseling, and Teen/Adolescent Counseling.