Roadblocks to Getting What You Want- 3

Today we continue to talk about ways to better articulate what you need in order to become a better communicator. You are an indirect communicator

Many people have a very direct style of communicating.  They just come right out and say what they want/need.  It often is very straightforward and to the point.  For example, someone who is a direct communicator would say to their boss, “I would like a raise”.

Others may not be so direct for fear of coming across as impolite, brash, or blunt.  These indirect communicators may instead offer a suggestion, make a side comment, or try to plant a seed to avoid saying exactly what they want.  Using the same example as above, an indirect communicator would say to their boss, “So I heard Joe in Accounting just got a raise, and he’s been with our company a shorter time than I have”.

Indirect communicators often hope that by dancing around the topic, the other person will cooperate and read between the lines with the request being made.  However, indirect communication is often not truly heard by the intended recipients, so in the end, you may not get what you really want.  If this is something you struggle with, I would recommend practicing being more direct with your communication.  You might find that people respond better!

Continue to read this week for more roadblocks.  Have a great day!


*Source: How to Ask for What You Want by Jane Herman


Written by: Christy Fogg, MSW, LCSW


Christy Fogg, MSW, LCSW is a licensed therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group.  Christy enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling.  Christy also provides family counseling, child counseling, and adolescent counseling.


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