Just as Teri mentioned yesterday, we are talking this week about the cognitive distortions we all have that can make us experience even more stress and anxiety in our lives. These unhealthy thinking patterns may be so ingrained in us that we may not even realize that we do them! Judgments
How often do you hear a situation or a story, and immediately jump to a conclusion? These evaluations, or judgments, are often based off of past experiences.
However, our distorted thinking based off of judgment can lead us down a very wrong path. It’s important to not jump to conclusions before making sure that we are seeing the situation as it really is, and looking at the facts, not just our assumptions.
Judging a situation without looking at all the evidence can take a semi-stressful situation and escalate it to a full-blown panic-attack inducing situation.
Assuming that we know what others are thinking is also a very unhealthy thinking pattern. Before presuming that you know what someone is going to say/think about a situation, it’s important to actually ask them. You may be surprised at their reaction.
Attempting to mind-read can cause a lot of problems, and a lot of unnecessary stress. Many people attempt to mind-read when it comes to what others think about them. A lot of cognitive distortions can occur when this happens (“He thinks I’m fat”, “She doesn’t think I’m smart”, etc.).
There may be nothing concrete to support these assumptions. That’s why mind-reading can be so harmful, and why it’s important to be aware if you find yourself engaging in this unhelpful and unhealthy thinking.
Continue to read this week as we discuss other unhelpful thinking habits!
Written by: Christy Fogg, MSW, LCSW
Christy Fogg, MSW, LCSW is a licensed therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Christy enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling. Christy also provides family counseling, child counseling, and adolescent counseling.
Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Zionsville, and Westfield.