Speak your child's love language! Speaking your child's love language, whether it's physical touch or quality time (or any of the 5), helps to restore tenderness in the relationship. This is important, regardless of what relationship you are trying to nurture.
If your child or teen has behavior problems, many times parents will stop doing special outings or use a lack of quality time as a form of "punishment" for bad behavior. While we aren't recommending that you take your kids to Disney following concrete evidence that they have been stealing from the neighbor, it's important to keep discipline and showing love separate. Don't use a withdrawal of love to punish, and don't use a child's love language as a reward towards good behavior.
Showing love to your child needs to be it's own separate entity!
How do you nurture your relationships?
Adapted from Scott Sells book, "Parenting Your Out Of Control Teenager" and "The Five Love Languages for Kids" by Gary Chapman.
Joleen Watson, MS, NCC, is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. She enjoys doing marriage counseling, relationship counseling, couples counseling, and individual counseling. Imagine Hope also specializes in family, child and adolescent counseling and serves Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield, and Fishers.