Opportunities to Build Trust
Trust is an essential ingredient in every relationship. Trust is extremely important in marriages, romantic relationships, with our children and other family members. When the person we're in a relationship with feels a lack of trust with us, they lose hope and a sense resentment starts to build.
How do we begin to build trust with this relationship? First, start by modeling it. We have to ask ourselves if we personally display trustworthy behavior between us everyone we come into contact with on a daily basis? It doesn't matter if it's our spouse or if it's a co-worker. Are we demonstrating trust in every aspect of your life? Do I say what I do and do what I say? Do I embellish? Do I lie? Do I leave tidbits out of conversation?
Secondly, do I follow-through on things I state I'm going to take action towards? If I commit to doing x, y, and z, do I do it? When we follow through with our word it creates trust with others.
If we are able to do these things, the people in our life will respond well to us when we're trying to connect with them or hold them accountable for their behavior.
Start Small Emotionally
Think of this like jumping jacks or stretching. Before we do some heavy exercise, we have to start small and get our blood pumping. Relationships work the same way. If there's any distance or disconnect between us and another person, we must start small if we eventually want to start repairing the relationship.
What do emotional warm-ups look like? Again, think small. Leave a positive hand-written note, send a nice text, give a compliment. You get the point! From here we can start building up to a short conversation with our significant other, watching a tv show together with our teen or phone conversation with the friend we haven't spoken to in months (or years!). Eventually we may reach our desired goal.
Remember, we cannot start at our end goal. Look for smaller victories when trying to nurture relationships. If we start bigger, we'll probably find ourselves frustrated and more apt to throw in the towel too soon.
I hope you're finding these tips helpful and useful. Please check back in tomorrow for more tips to nurture your relationships. Thank you for reading!
Written by: Tamara Portee MA, LMHC, LCAC
*Tamara enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, & couples counseling at Imagine Hope. We also specialize in family counseling, child & adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield & Fishers.