The Five Levels of Intimacy #4- My Feelings and Experiences

You've learned safe communication, are comfortable hearing other's opinions and beliefs, and have shared your own. The next level is deeper- sharing your feelings and experiences. At this level, we share things that have brought us joy and what has brought us great pain. We share what have succeeded at but mostly some of our mistakes. We share about what we want and don't want for the future and even share some of our goals.

This level truly makes us more vulnerable because we don't want to be judged by our past or even our current feelings. When the person hears more of who we are on this level, we are more at risk for being abandoned.

But this is a very important stage in intimacy. If no one can get this close and find out what we truly feel and what we really want, they can't make an informed decision whether you are someone they want to be with. And the same goes for you. If someone won't share these thoughts/feelings with you, then you  can't make an informed decision whether to go further in the relationship.

Although it is a risky stage, it is an important one. And once you experience it, you will see the benefits and importance of this level of intimacy.

Tomorrow Joleen will share about needs, emotions, and desires. A very important level of intimacy as well.

Thank you for reading!

*Material Adapted from: “The Five Levels of Intimacy” by Barbara Wilson

Written by Natalie Chandler

Natalie Chandler, MA, LMHC is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Natalie enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, and couples counseling.  We also specialize in family counseling, child, and adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Westfield, and Zionsville