Love is in the air as we look forward to celebrating Valentine's Day this week! Relationships aren't just about romance and feeling "that loving feeling". They are about feeling safe enough to be intimate with your partner on all levels and completely sharing yourself with another person. This week we will dig into different levels of intimacy for you to be more intentional about intimacy in all your relationships- and not just your romantic ones!
Intimacy Level #1: Safe Communication
There isn't much risk with this level of intimacy. This communication is the common surface interactions we have with people we might not know well or at all. Comments about weather, facts, obvious statements, and idle chitchat are all part of this stage.
Due to this stage not revealing much about ourselves, there is little chance of rejection. This is what makes it "safe". Mastering this stage is easier than most, and can open doors for us to move into the next stage.
Benefits of this stage are that you feel safe without the chance of judgement or being hurt by others. But beware- getting stuck in this stage can create a lack of depth and fulfillment that come with the other stages. Even though it might be easy to remain in this stage, you never connect with others in a way you can feel loved and known.
Read about stage #2 tomorrow!
Material Adapted from: powertochange.com "The Five Levels of Intimacy" by Barbara Wilson
Written by Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW, LCAC
Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW, LCAC is a licensed therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Teri enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling. Teri also does family counseling, child counseling, and adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Zionsville, and Westfield.