A child naturally feels vulnerable. They easily feel "emotionally naked" because not all of their defenses have been yet fully developed. If children are growing up in a dysfunctional family system, he/she can become too vulnerable or too good/perfect.
Becoming too vulnerable means they feel at the mercy (emotionally) of other people and will feel controlled by others and will lack a healthy feeling of responsibility of their own emotions. They may trust people they would normally be hesitant of.
Being too good/perfect means the child will start acting certain ways in order to get approval, which creates deep shame and low self-esteem issues.
As adults, these traits can lead to difficulties in setting healthy boundaries. Without help, an adult growing up in this situation will either let people take advantage of them, or over-extend themselves doing for everyone else.
Please keep reading our blog this week as we have 3 more ways to share with you how dysfunction can effect children. Thank you!
Written by: Tamara Portee MA, LMHC, LCAC
*Tamara enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, & couples counseling at Imagine Hope. We also specialize in family counseling, child & adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield & Fishers.