You've heard the saying, "The grass grows where it's watered". As with grass and plants, so it is in our relationships. The more effort and time you give to it, the more it will grow and weather life's challenges. That's why I love this weeks topic on how to create fireworks in your marriage. It's not just about sex, it's about keeping the relationship ALIVE!
You remember how to flirt, don't you? Remember the good ole days when you would look at each other across the room and know what you both were thinking? Maybe you would start laughing or just feel comforted by that sweet smile. It's easy to get into a rut and forget how to flirt.
Here's some reminders of ways to flirt (in case it's been too long! ;)
One way of flirting is to actually gaze at them. Be mysterious with your smile. Make them wonder what you're up to!
Wink at them This is another fun one. When you are walking thru the house, wink at them. Rather than just pass them by actually pat them, or blow them a kiss. When you are listening to your kids argue at the dinner table, start playing "footsie" under the table. I know, I know. It sounds cheesy. But this is the fun stuff we used to do when we were dating. You couldn't keep your hands or eyes off each other! It really will bring some playfulness back into the relationship instead of keeping it so serious.
Text Messaging Earlier in the week, Tamara mentioned texting when apart. I think this is a great idea! Flirt with that as well. Or better yet, when your spouse is upstairs and you are downstairs, doing separate things, send them a fun or sexy text. It's funny to hear the chuckle when they receive it. And again, it keeps things not so serious.
Mirror Messages You know one of the best ways to send a creative, fun message? Write it on their mirror in the bathroom (or car). Just a simple "I love you" or "Have a good day!" will brighten things up and can create a good feeling with your spouse. If you want to get real sexy, use your bright red lipstick! This will send a message to him that is more than "Just thinking about you!".
There are so many creative ways to flirt. It's a natural process of dating, so just remember back to that. Get cheesy, have fun, and lighten things up. You just might find your tired self in the mood to act young again!
Thank you for reading and stay tuned for more tips tomorrow as Joleen finishes out our blog.
Written by Natalie Chandler
Natalie Chandler, MA, LMHC LCAC is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Natalie enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, and couples counseling. We also specialize in family counseling, child, and adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Westfield, and Zionsville.