This week, Imagine Hope is discussing different tips for how you can make your sex life more fulfilling. Have fun and be more playful. Sex doesn't have to be serious, routine and boring. Spice things up by including laughter and make it fun! It's always good to incorporate humor in our day to day lives (good natured, of course!)-- including sex. Send your partner playful texts throughout the day. Be playful with touch and conversation. Remember that good sex starts outside of the bedroom!
Learn about your partner's sexual preferences and interests. Find out what the other person likes-- different ways of being touched, sexual positions, the things that person likes during foreplay (or how much foreplay they like or don't like), or the ways that bring them to orgasm. Then do them! Don't be selfish during sex. Make sure to focus appropriate attention on what the other person is telling you (through their words or through the unspoken ways they are telling you) about their interests. If your partner doesn't like something, or if something is a turn-off for them, take note of it and try not to do that particular thing. Above all else, be open to talking about sex! If you like something, or don't like something, be open with your partner in telling them.
Have sex more often! While each couple has their own preference for how often they want to have sex (and what they find fulfilling), try to have sex more often. Try to have sex at least once a week or more. It's easy to let day to day life get in the way of a healthy sex life, but try not to let this happen. After work, kids, family, and home, we can all be exhausted. But again, don't let this keep your sex life from happening. It's important for a healthy relationship to remain sexually connected. While it's not the only way to show love, it is a very important part of fully loving your partner.
Joleen Watson, MS, NCC, is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. She enjoys doing marriage counseling, relationship counseling, couples counseling, and individual counseling. Imagine Hope also specializes in family, child and adolescent counseling and serves Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield, and Fishers.