We do not usually think of our relationship as something with ingredients. However, it is important to break down components that support relationship health. Its a good idea to be introspective and see what exactly makes up our partnerships and friendships to maintain good relationship health. Does your relationship have the following 3 ingredients?
Ingredient #5 Commitment
Commitment is where we stay or work together. This is easy when times are good, but is even more important when times are challenging. Tamara wrote yesterday about the importance of communication. It is essential that you and your partner communicate about what commitment means to you. Make sure you are clear about what you want and what you are willing to give.
Ingredient #6 Acceptance
There is an old (bad) joke that says women get married hoping that their grooms will change. Men get married hoping their brides never will. This is not acceptance. Acceptance is where you are okay with who you are as you are. Acceptance is also that you are okay with your partner as s/he is. In your relationship, do you accept your partner in his or her true form?
Ingredient #7 Honesty
As you know we cannot commit to or accept something that is not the truth. Are you your honest person expressing your true wants and desires or do you play games? Do you put on a show for your partner so to hide your vulnerability? Do you pretend to avoid conflict? Honor yourself and your partner by being open and honest and your authentic self.
Please make sure you talk to your partner about what you both are doing well. Affirmations are encouraging for people to know what they are doing right. Please stay tuned as Natalie and Joleen continue to write about the ingredients of a healthy relationship. As always, thanks for stopping by.
Guest post written by Alexa Griffith, LMHC, LCAC, NCC, RPT