Only Child: Making Your Birth Order Work For You

Today we will wrap up with the only child. We've all heard someone say "Oh.... They are an "only child"! So many stereotypes exist for the "only"-- self-focused, high expectations for self and others, difficult to get along with...

While some of these may be true, if you are an only child, there are things you can do to help!

1. Pay attention to the ideas outlined in the First Born blog from earlier this week!

2. Exercise extreme caution. Since only children tend to be over-achievers like first borns: Don't make too many commitments in day to day life and don't expect too much of yourself.

3. Make time for yourself. Only children often need quite a bit of time for themselves, so it's important to build time and space into your schedule.

4. Choose friends wisely. Because only children tend to get along with and relate better to people much older or younger, it's important for them to try and arrange experiences with both groups-- these personalities are ones you will most likely click with.

5. Do a self-inventory. Because only children didn't have to learn to share with a brother or sister, they are often labeled as selfish. Take an honest inventory of your life and how you are with your spouse or significant other, friends, or co-workers.

Adapted from The Birth Order Book: Why You Are The Way You Are by K. Leman

Joleen Watson, MS, NCC, is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. She enjoys doing marriage counseling, relationship counseling, couples counseling, and individual counseling.  Imagine Hope also specializes in family, child and adolescent counseling and serves Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield, and Fishers.