Most of us enjoy knowing the person we're speaking with has heard us, even if that person does not always agree or fully understand. This is true for every age group, young and old. Think back to being a teenager, or raising your teen. Ever remember saying (or hearing), "You never listen to me! You don't get it!". Do you ever say this in your current adult relationships with people? When we get the feedback that another is listening to us, we feel loved.
In the same way, knowing another accepts us is a human need as well. Others can demonstrate their acceptance by respecting, validating and being tolerant of our feelings. This allows us to grow, mature and see ourselves in a positive way. If I know my friend, parent or significant other respects my feelings, then I feel validated and will more likely share with them in the future.
Acceptance from others allows us to be real and transparent. We feel a sense of belonging and love. Again, someone doesn't have to agree with our point-of-view, but allowing another to share and then agreeing to listen to that point-of-view can provide much positivity.
Written by: Tamara Portee MA, LMHC, LCAC
*Tamara enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, & couples counseling at Imagine Hope. We also specialize in family counseling, child & adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield & Fishers.