Let's Talk About Love- Agape

In honor of Valentine's week, this week Imagine Hope is discussing the different kinds of love.  Today is one of the most incredible forms of love-- Agape Love. What is Agape Love?

Agape Love is the rarest and most difficult form of love, but it is the one that symbolizes Christian love and the love from God.  Much like getting to the stage of "self-actualization", it is something we strive to achieve in our relationships with ourselves and others, but it's definitely a journey.  Agape love isn't romantic love or brotherly love...

Agape love is unconditional love.  It is a choice we make to love another person whether they love us back or not.  It means that you choose to love someone, even if they are your enemy!  It isn't based on emotion, in fact, it might be contrary to our every emotion, especially if we are struggling to like a person, much less love them.  But agape love is loving someone, in spite of the face of someone who doesn't respond to you in the way you desire.  All of us have individuals that we struggle to love.  But agape love is an act of will.  I think one of the most important parts of this type of love is that it's a choice.  It's difficult sometimes to fathom that we can choose to love someone.  Just like we can choose to not love someone.  But agape love means to choose to seek the best for others.  This is a love based on the mind.  We can choose to show agape love by actively thinking about, and deciding how we act toward other people.  Agape love is talking about our behavior towards others, not our feelings.  It means that you behave-- through a conscious choice you make in your mind-- in a compassionate, respectful manner, towards all people.

How can you work on moving towards agape love in all of your relationships?

Thank you for joining us this week!

Joleen Watson, MS, NCC, is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. She enjoys doing marriage counseling, relationship counseling, couples counseling, and individual counseling.  Imagine Hope also specializes in family, child and adolescent counseling and serves Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield, and Fishers.