Let's Talk about Love- Philia

Philia This week we have talked about types of love. So far we have described Storge (family love) and Eros (romantic love). Today let's talk about Philia.

Philia is used to describe close friendships, love for community, and even some types of family relationships where Storge is not necessarily felt (like a cousin you're not so close to but get along with). This is also the type of love that we are talking about when we say, "I love ice cream" or "I love to watch movies!". We don't really mean that we are IN love with them so to speak. And we definitely don't feel a type of family love for these foods or activities. But we do enjoy them more than chocolate or watching tv. We like them A LOT!

This obviously describes friends, neighbors we enjoy spending time with, or even co-workers that we like to be around. It is more than just "liking" but it is not a deep, naturally born kind of love either (like parental love). It is usually built over time thru cultivating a relationship. So you wouldn't necessarily feel Philia with a co-worker. But if you and a co-worker started going out to lunch together, going out on the weekends together, and sharing more than what you do with other co-workers, you are probably developing a Philia type of relationship.

This is also the type of love that you feel when you start to date someone. Not the infatuation we usually feel, but the type of feelings you have when you want to spend more time getting to know another person.

This kind of love is fun. It's usually our relationships that don't take as much "work" so to speak. They just come kind of naturally.

Tomorrow Joleen will finish our week with Agape love. This is the most powerful of all of the loves so stay with us! Thank you for reading this week. We hope you have a wonderful week filled with love!

Written by Natalie Chandler, LMHC, LCAC

Natalie Chandler, MA, LMHC , LCAC is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Natalie enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, and couples counseling.  We also specialize in family counseling, child, and adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Westfield, and Zionsville